I’ve just had a very heated conversation with my youngest daughter who lives in Canada - I’ve had a tough week with two friends finding out their cancer has returned/ and my eldest grandson birthday is tomorrow/ is with my eldest daughter in Sweden ( we can’t be together for the foreseeable future) I told her I was sad / and struggling this week with one thing and another. She told me off good and proper / said I was passive aggressive/ always trying to make them feel guilty for not living in the U.K. . I am struggling with my emotional state at the moment / but I take ownership of my feelings. I don’t ever say your make me feel etc.
And said o act as if they we’re dead and had dis owned them - then she rang off .
I certainly haven’t disowned them - far from it - we speak regularly and recently have been trying to work out how we can go to Canada to help with child care for the summer holidays ( it doesn’t seem possible currently with the restrictions) .
At the moment I don’t think I can ever share my feelings again with her / just keep quiet and tow the line - but my husband says why should you .
I have a very stressful job -dealing with families who are separated- so I am aware of how to use language etc but this is too close to home and I feel at a loss .
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