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When was your last cuddle?

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Daftbag1 Thu 02-Jul-20 21:04:25

When did you last have a cuddle, and be held tight?
I was just thinking, I'd love my husband to hold me tight and make me feel safe from the world. He won't, not because he doesn't love me, he does, but because he's not a 'cuddles' person. Neither of us are physically demonstrative, we missed out on the cuddles as children, and grew up two damaged souls. Just occasionally, I really wish I could be held tight, not in a sexual way, but just a 'let go of all my worries', way, to feel that I don't have the world on my shoulders!

Oopsadaisy3 Thu 02-Jul-20 21:17:30

DH wasn’t a cuddling person, but by the time the children came along he had changed, now we hug often, just a walk across the room and he’ll give me a hug.
Why not be the one to start changing? Just walk across the kitchen and give him a quick hug before you give him a cup of tea or something ?
It’s never too late.

kircubbin2000 Thu 02-Jul-20 21:24:38

About 8 years ago. Not expecting any more.😁😁

kircubbin2000 Thu 02-Jul-20 21:26:18

I was just thinking that this morning as I had disapproving Victorian style parents.

threexnanny Thu 02-Jul-20 21:32:49

Most mornings when we are just awake, but never during the day. No idea why - just habit perhaps. Neither of us came from very demonstrative families. Still looking forward to the next GC hug.

Grandmafrench Thu 02-Jul-20 21:35:42

Practice on the little GC's and then on good tactile friends and your animals - and each other. Change the habits of a lifetime, it's never too late to show how you feel. Just go for it. Everyone needs a cuddle.

lemongrove Thu 02-Jul-20 21:40:32

This afternoon, we often hug if we feel like it.😊

GagaJo Thu 02-Jul-20 21:44:29

Today. From the bloke and lots to and from grandson.

Other than grandson, I'm not that bothered. There are benefits to being an introvert.

crazyH Thu 02-Jul-20 21:50:22

From my precious grandson 2 days ago 😘

Anniebach Thu 02-Jul-20 21:53:28

2017, my darling daughter

Pantglas2 Thu 02-Jul-20 21:59:29

They’re all different aren’t they - you’ll never forget that one Anniebach x

moggie57 Thu 02-Jul-20 22:08:22

cant remember .our family was never ones for cuddling .suppose a hug was from a church person .when she said you so uptight ......just the way i am . i hug my grandchildren to make up for it ,sometimes my daughter but she just the same she wont let me hug her ,though others do and this hurts.

tanith Thu 02-Jul-20 22:12:28

Yesterday, my eldest daughter in the morning and her sister in the afternoon. We’ve always hugged and kissed each other.

dogsmother Thu 02-Jul-20 22:17:36

I love a hug, always claim one wherever I can and always give one too whenever I can.

Oopsminty Thu 02-Jul-20 22:19:47

Not a hugger

Mr Minty is

I tell him to hug the dog

MissAdventure Thu 02-Jul-20 22:28:33

Is the dog a huggy type, then? smile

Grandmafrench Thu 02-Jul-20 22:34:22

The dog will be Pleading the 5th on this one, MissA.

MissAdventure Thu 02-Jul-20 22:35:08


Grannynannywanny Thu 02-Jul-20 22:58:56

Have you heard this song? Some might say it’s a bit cheesy but I like it.
We All Need a Hug in the Morning

crazyH Thu 02-Jul-20 23:02:04

Anniebach 🤗

Oopsminty Thu 02-Jul-20 23:07:06


Is the dog a huggy type, then? smile


She is far more huggier than I am

Evie64 Thu 02-Jul-20 23:19:07

I am a very tactile person. One of my daughter's friends once told me that I should sell my cuddles "cos there the best"! I love a cuddle. Today I went back to work after being off sick for a while and my lovely colleague Julia put her hooded jacket on back to front with the hood over the front of her face and we had a really lovely cuddle. grin

paddyanne Thu 02-Jul-20 23:43:25

we cuddle all the time,when one of us is leaving the house even into the garden,when we pass in the the kitchen while we're waiting for the kettle to boil.My daughter used to pull faces and laugh about it when she was growing up ,then she grew up and wanted a relationship like ours .Now she thinks its amazing we still smooch dance round the sitting room in the evening or cuddle and hold hands in the street .45 years and hoping for many many more .

harrigran Thu 02-Jul-20 23:50:33

New year's night when I said goodbye to DD and SIL because they flying home to Belgium the next day.
My elder sister and I were talking about childhood the other day and we agreed that we could never remember being kissed or cuddled as children.

Marmight Fri 03-Jul-20 02:21:44

Cuddles from the GC but the other type of cuddle from the person you love most in the world - I can’t remember. What would I give just to have a comforting arm round my shoulders. It comes as a bit of a shock to realise that once you have lost those who gave you unconditional love, in my case my parents and husband, you will never be as important to anyone else and that’s quite a lonely place to be. (Especially at 2.30am when you can't sleep flippin’ well sleep 😴)