New Grandparent with some major worries.
My Daughter has a partner (not married) had some major issues in the relationship in the past
They have a 6 month old.
My Daughter is returning to work soon and childcare is to be divided between her and both Grandparents.
This is where the issue arises.
The other Grandma and others living there are significant users of cannabis. This does affect their behaviour dramatically.
My Daughter does not want the baby to go there at all but it being totally over ruled by her partner who is insistent.
They all undermine and disregard her wishes or instructions.
I worry if something happens to the baby will my Daughter be in trouble for "willingly" allowing the baby to be there!?
They do drive and will expect to do so with the baby.
As if the return to work isn't hard enough without this to deal with.
They cannot afford nursery fees, she may as well not work if they have to pay. They similarly can't afford for her not to work.
And yes she did know what their habits were, but never thought they would expect to care for a child or that her partner would want them too.
He does not share the habit.
How would you as the other gran deal with this?
My husband is very much head in the sand and just says we all need to close our minds to it on the day the baby is there! 🤯
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