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Dost thou love thy neighbour?

(155 Posts)
Lucca Thu 24-Jun-21 07:19:12

Seeing this weird story made me wonder if anyone had experience of awful, wonderful, strange neighbours ? (I’m very lucky as mine are all round good eggs!)

Nanabanana1 Thu 24-Jun-21 07:28:18

That’s awful, luckily I have very good neighbours.

FannyCornforth Thu 24-Jun-21 07:30:18

It looks like a contender for the Turner Prize!

BigBertha1 Thu 24-Jun-21 07:31:46

Do the birds only sing in one half now.

BlueBelle Thu 24-Jun-21 07:33:34

Well I bet that’s made a big difference not a bird in sight dah 😂😂😂😂

Curlywhirly Thu 24-Jun-21 07:37:22

We have lovely neighbours - one of the reasons we have never moved from our house. We don't live in each other's pockets (I have only ever been in 2 of my neighbours' houses, and they were only fleeting visits), but we all support each other, and after living here for over 40 years we have never had to make a complaint or received one (not even when our two boys were 'lively' teenagers who had a few parties!). Looking at the above photo makes me realise how lucky we are 🙂

Grandmadinosaur Thu 24-Jun-21 07:37:47

I saw this story. I can sympathise as sadly I have awful neighbours. They have got worse during lockdown and building a so called bar in the garden and having people round not always adhering to the rules of the time after a few drinks.
It also escalated a few weeks ago with the husband threatening violence. It’s one of the reasons we are hoping to move.

FannyCornforth Thu 24-Jun-21 07:40:43

How can you object to bird song?
How soulless and sad

FannyCornforth Thu 24-Jun-21 07:41:37

Grandmadinosaur that must be awful thanks

Aveline Thu 24-Jun-21 07:51:17

What a sad situation. We're lucky in our flats. We know everyone and are good friends with some of them. Others are at more if a distance for various reasons but no unpleasance at all and certainly no nasty daftness like cutting that tree in half. (I wonder how they did it?)

Ellianne Thu 24-Jun-21 07:54:49

My cats would find that tricky to negotiate!

We have moved 12 times but never had problem neighbours, just a few "characters".

DanniRae Thu 24-Jun-21 08:03:03

Once my neighbour stopped his dog constantly barking when he went out - which nearly drove me crazy angry - all is good with our neighbours smile

sodapop Thu 24-Jun-21 08:06:54

I did wonder about the 'tree surgeon' who actually cut this tree in half. I suppose it was just another job.

Grandmadinosaur Thu 24-Jun-21 08:11:39

Yes it is fannyCornforth I saw a property online last night that would be perfect but might be a stretch atm.

Lucca Thu 24-Jun-21 08:13:39


How can you object to bird song?
How soulless and sad

I think there was also a lot of bird poo on their manicured driveway

Rowantree Thu 24-Jun-21 08:13:51

He shouldn't have been doing drastic tree surgery at this time of year anyway. Birds could be nesting. I think it's actually illegal, isn't it?

nanna8 Thu 24-Jun-21 08:14:14

Is it serious ? Looks like a bit of a joke to me. We don’t see our neighbours very often but have a quick chat when we do. It is always a risk when you move house but we have been lucky with our neighbours. When we lived in the UK you could hear the neighbours playing one of those electronic organs which was a bit annoying but they only played in daylight hours. Our first house here had a neighbour who used to watch my girls jumping on the trampoline which made me a little uneasy but he never did anything untoward.

Esspee Thu 24-Jun-21 08:20:39

If the photo on the right shows where their car is usually parked then I think the objection might be less to do with birdsong and more about what comes out of their other end.

harrigran Thu 24-Jun-21 08:20:43

I don't think it was the birdsong that was the problem, more likely that the birds were bombing the car and marking the paintwork.

Talullah Thu 24-Jun-21 08:24:31

There's a house near us which has a whole row of trees chopped like that. So strange. They're semis, but not stuck together. One house has put in Leylandii ... yes that dreaded tree ... but he does keep it chopped back and under control. The neighbour hates it and has cut it right back to the bark. On his side. He's clearly ventured into next door's garden to get it so close to the trunk. Neither couple talk to the other. Been going on for years. My neighbours are just wonderful. Lovely people and we get on well. Thank goodness. It must be exhausting having animosity brewing with your neighbours

FannyCornforth Thu 24-Jun-21 08:27:36


I don't think it was the birdsong that was the problem, more likely that the birds were bombing the car and marking the paintwork.

The 'birdsong' is actually referred to as the problem in the first paragraph of the article

Lin52 Thu 24-Jun-21 08:29:26

What a miserly pair, who chops a tree in half, and it certainly won’t stop the birds singing, louder than ever one hopes. Only got three decent neighbours, houses on either side of me tenanted, one side won’t speak, the other side, well he has made such a mess with junk outside, I don’t want him to.

Lucca Thu 24-Jun-21 08:56:31



I don't think it was the birdsong that was the problem, more likely that the birds were bombing the car and marking the paintwork.

The 'birdsong' is actually referred to as the problem in the first paragraph of the article

Sorry I didn’t include the whole article but neighbours objected to birdsong and “the ness they were making on the driveway “

FannyCornforth Thu 24-Jun-21 08:58:19

Oh okay , thank you.
I wonder what their back garden looks like? Do they eradicate every sign of life?

eazybee Thu 24-Jun-21 09:01:15

I sympathize. I live in a similar situation.
My immediate next door neighbour is an obsessive gardener whose first act on moving in was to destroy a pretty, well-established garden by removing every single plant, tree and lawn and replace them with succulents and gravel, very noisy. Her choice, but she also removed the borders and her surrounding neighbours' privacy. I planted a shrub border and she informed me she was entitled to remove every leaf and twig once it touched the top of her low fence, and does so, continually.
The neighbours on the other side put up taller fencing, but took exception the the numerous bird tables and feeders she has so retaliate every time birds settle to feed by using a loud klaxon type hooter to scare them off and prevent them soiling their shed and patio. Consequently, they fly over my garden, shed and patio, depositing as they go, and their is no peace in the gardens in summer.
She is also agitating to get a beautiful oak tree outside the bottom of our gardens, and the responsibility of the local council, taken down, and trying to prevent a disused building being used by the Scouts.
Should this happen, they will immediately build on the small area of land, another threat to privacy.