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Do you drive?

(207 Posts)
Jaxjacky Sat 21-May-22 21:22:54

I’m surprised by how many women don’t drive, it does tend to be women and wondered if there was a common reason for not driving.

MaizieD Sat 21-May-22 21:29:45

It was certainly common in my parents' generation for the wife not to drive, but I really thought we'd got past that now.

Yes, I drive. I don't actually know any woman of my age who doesn't, apart from those who have a medical condition which prevents them from driving.

Georgesgran Sat 21-May-22 21:31:24

Depends what age group you’re looking at? My friends and I - between 67 and 75 all drive, as does every woman on the small development (22 houses) where I live. My DDs couldn’t wait to learn but a friend’s DD and now her DGD weren’t bothered about driving, even though she offered to pay for lessons, etc

Shinamae Sat 21-May-22 21:32:58

I am 69 and have never ever wanted to learn to drive..

lixy Sat 21-May-22 21:33:58

Yes, I drive and I love it, though I prefer it when DH is not a passenger!
I try not to drive in the dark much nowadays though as I find headlights troublesome.
My mum didn't learn to drive until my dad was too ill to do so, and many of her friends didn't drive at all - but travelling by bus/train was easier and cheaper then.

Shandy57 Sat 21-May-22 21:41:12

I think women started learning to drive when they had to go out to work, rather than staying at home to look after the children. I was born in '57 and my Mum got the bus to work, but my Dad collected her in the car in the evening.

halfpint1 Sat 21-May-22 21:44:03

67 and yes I drive but not at night if I can avoid it. I recently visited England but let my daughter drive, I suddenly felt unable to cope with changing to the other side of the road and put it down to the fact that I haven't visited for 3years because of COVID and I 've lost my confidence

Megs36 Sat 21-May-22 21:46:06

I had to stop driving. three years ago after a stroke, ironically I didn’t enjoy driving but now my husband’s not so good and we feel marooned! Very frustrating depending on occasional help from other people, the council here issues taxi vouchers, very appreciated but only for few journeys.

GagaJo Sat 21-May-22 21:47:34

Of course! It gives me independence.

I've lived abroad in places I couldn't drive and hated having to rely on public transport and taxis.

My mum could drive, but could never afford a car so didn't drive. My DD isn't interested in learning. Happy to ask for lifts though!

Charleygirl5 Sat 21-May-22 21:48:15

I am 79 and I drive. My mother also learned to drive. I have a neighbour who is around age 40 and she does not drive. My immediate female neighbour does not drive. She came to this country with her husband and family a few years ago- her husband and 4 adult children in their late teens and early 20's all drive.

Teacheranne Sat 21-May-22 21:54:23

If I didn’t drive, I would have a very limited life as I cannot walk very well and rely on my car. I’m 65 and have been driving since I was 21. I’ve driven all sorts of vehicles over the years including vans and mini buses and am confident on motorways and night driving. I’ve driven all around the UK and in parts of Europe when I was divorced and took my children camping in France and Belgium.

I enjoy driving and recently bought a new car, my first automatic, which I love. It has an on board computer with blue tooth for my phone and once I got used to the new features, I love the reversing camera, parking sensors, sat nav, heated front windscreen, automatic wipers and so on - turning into a Motörhead in my old age!

BlueBelle Sat 21-May-22 21:54:36

I ve never driven and feel no loss and no it’s not all women both my male boss and two male workers in their thirtie/ forties don’t drive …neither my mum or dad drove and no one in my family owned a car my best friend has never driven either
I walk cycle or use my free bus pass I spend a LOT less money than drivers and I don’t pollute the world maybe I ve got it right
All my children learnt to drive at 17

Jaxjacky Sat 21-May-22 21:54:58

I know of three women, my age 60+ who’ve never driven and the same number of late 20’s early 30’s women too and we don’t live in a big town with good public transport. I do drive.

Jaxjacky Sat 21-May-22 21:58:07

Maybe you have Bluebelle I did say mostly women, not exclusively. I think Uber do well locally here.

JaneJudge Sat 21-May-22 21:58:49


Blossoming Sat 21-May-22 22:09:17

I really loved cars and driving. Unfortunately it wasn’t possible to drive again following my brain injury.

Kate1949 Sat 21-May-22 22:16:16

Never had the confidence

Sago Sat 21-May-22 22:16:30

I love driving too.

BigBertha1 Sat 21-May-22 22:19:58

I'm 69 and drive everywhere, motorways everywhere. It's use it or lose it now. It would be easy to let DH drive everywhere but I shall keep on. Recently bought me a small run about but I tend to use the bigger car for good and netball because of carrying kit.

rafichagran Sat 21-May-22 22:20:02

Yes I drive. I am glad I do.

Nannarose Sat 21-May-22 22:23:53

I've never enjoyed driving. I did it as a necessity - for work, and because I have always lived in rural areas. Previously a car was useful if you lived in a village, although I would often prefer to use the bus. Now, I would find it very difficult if I didn't drive, as buses are few, and unreliable.
My mum loved driving, and hated being a passenger - she had a good working knowledge of mechanics as well. But I conform much more to the stereotype - so when we are together DH drives and I just take over for an hour or two on long journeys. I'm quite a good 'co-driver' though!

Pantglas2 Sat 21-May-22 22:24:47

You’ll have to shoot me before I stop driving in Uk or in Spain motorways, nighttime and all - why would anyone not want the independence that being able to hop into your car at a moment’s notice gives?

Yes, I do use my bus pass and railcard but other people’s timetables and tardiness drive me mad!

FarNorth Sat 21-May-22 22:36:09

I always said it would annoy me if there was a car available and I had to ask someone else to drive me in it so I learned to drive at 17 - still going strong.
My DH never wanted to drive a car but did have a small motorbike for a few years.

Many women who drive in our rural area, won't do it further afield - that applies to all ages, I think.
I drive anywhere that I need to.

Vintagejazz Sat 21-May-22 22:36:56

Yes my life and options would have been much more limited if I couldn't drive. Unfortunately the way society is constructed nowadays it can be difficult to manage without a car. My sister doesn't drive and it really has been a drawback.

crazyH Sat 21-May-22 22:37:03

My neighbour had to give up driving due to her health condition/medication. She says when she sees me driving out, at odd hours, sometimes 3 times a day, she really feels sad that she is unable to drive. The one thing though I find, I’m losing confidence in night driving. I think I will, sooner rather than later, give up night driving