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Loving the common thread so much thought we should go “POSH”

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Sago Thu 11-Aug-22 13:48:45

My mother had an endless list of things deemed common, I thought it would be fun to do her posh (I hate the word) list!
She would actually say poash just to make it sound poasher!
She also had the habit of lowering her voice a few octaves when saying anything French.

Anything French or disguised as French ie, Jacques Vert, Pâté, Croissants.
All M&S food
Colmans mixes (really)
Conservatories
Earl Grey tea
Cruises
Long dresses
Dinner Dances
Asparagus
Wedgewood
Any foreign holiday destination except mainland Spain.
En suite bathrooms
Anything with a hint of peach or apricot, her house was a shrine to peach and apricot tones😬
Weddings in marquees
Double barrelled surnames
Play for Today
Good Housekeeping
Tablecloths
Any food sat on top of a doily.
Being able to recite any
Embellished towels
Pearls

Alan Bennett would have had a field day.

Sago Thu 11-Aug-22 13:49:34

Being able to recite any poem!

Shirley48 Thu 11-Aug-22 13:49:43

Port Out Starboard Home

Calendargirl Thu 11-Aug-22 14:52:37

Double barrelled surnames used to be posh when I was young. No longer the case. Quite the opposite.

It also used to be posh to have a personalised car number plate, now every Tom, Dick and Harry ( who were they btw?) can have one, no longer posh.

Hard to define ‘poshness’. My DD used to be a nanny to a lady who epitomised being ‘posh’. Not just how she spoke, the lovely house she lived in, her lifestyle.

If she had lost all her money, her home, her lifestyle, she would still have been ‘posh’, but I can’t tell you how I know that.

My mother would have called it ‘breeding’.

crazyH Thu 11-Aug-22 14:55:54

Anyone who went to university and ‘read Classics’ as we often hear on Mastermind ….

M0nica Thu 11-Aug-22 15:03:44

I was brought up to believe everyone was the equal of me.

People might be better off than us, belong to a different social circle, have tastes and make choices that my parents might consider unncessarily ostentatious, but the word 'posh' excpt in its literal meaning was not in their vocabulary.

Jazzhands Thu 11-Aug-22 15:04:25

My Mum and Dad used to run a Royal Estate. Mum organised the events and Dad did the accounts. They lived in the Mews there and had a nice time. I remember they used to giggle at the posh accents of some guests. They were setting up the ballroom and were one chair short. 'I say, there's a spah chah hah.' which was there's a spare chair here. Dad would say he was a wood bee, not a be.

nanna8 Thu 11-Aug-22 15:08:25

Posh here is going to the right schools and having a lot of money with trips to places like the Antarctic, the Galápagos Islands, Scandinavia as well as several houses in different locations. Mainly plumbers who earn so much money it makes your eyes water.

Aveline Thu 11-Aug-22 15:10:26

My great aunt Elizabeth told us about a time she was queuing in a bakers shop. A lady in front was trying hard to be posh. She asked for, 'Faive hot paise please'. We have referred to pies as 'paise' ever since.

lemsip Thu 11-Aug-22 15:12:31

loud people on a bus, keep your voices down to the area you occupy, .

Aveline Thu 11-Aug-22 15:13:18

Rich is not the same as posh. You can be as rich a Croesus but still be common as much.

Serendipity22 Thu 11-Aug-22 15:15:56

Ahhhhhh haaaaa yes the word posh.

This word i use a lot in a jokey manner, i pronounce it poooosh.

I dont label anyone as posh just the same as i dont label anyone as Common but i do find it easier to turn the word posh into an elongated 1 and slip it into a conversation in jest.

smile

M0nica Thu 11-Aug-22 15:18:22

nanna8 Why are the things you describe 'posh'? Expensive, yes, but 'posh'?

RichmondPark1 Thu 11-Aug-22 15:18:49

My aunt's 'posh' list included
Eau-de-nil
Tiny guest soaps
Little cakes in tiny paper cups
Voting Conservative
A cosy for the loo roll
A cosy for anything that didn't move
Marks and Spencer "Quality, not quantity, dear."
A supper of leftovers known as A Cold Collation
Saying garage to rhyme with Farage

Chestnut Thu 11-Aug-22 15:18:55

Calendargirl Being posh is definitely all about breeding and social class. Yes, you can be living in poverty in a hovel and still be posh. Maybe your parents were upper (or upper middle) class and you were well educated, you will always be that person no matter how far you fall financially. Then there is 'new money', people who are from the lower or working classes but have acquired lots of money and are wealthy. Lots of examples in entertainment and sports. They have money but are not deemed posh or classy. Attempts to be posh by these people come across as totally fake like Hyacinth Bucket.

Doodledog Thu 11-Aug-22 15:26:16

I love 'A Cold Collation' grin.

We call it 'fridge bottom pie'.

RichmondPark1 Thu 11-Aug-22 15:33:07

'fridge bottom pie'.

Brilliant!! I am going to steal this and use it forever.

Grandma70s Thu 11-Aug-22 15:34:31

Poshness (the real sort, not the Hyacinth Bucket version) is largely defined in England by how you speak, and secondarily by where you went to school. It’s difficult to fake - see “My Fair Lady”.

“If you spoke as she does, sir, instead of the way you do,
Why, you might be selling flowers too!”

Quotation from memory, and approximate.

paddyann54 Thu 11-Aug-22 15:34:44

Me too Monica My dad always told us we were as good as anyone else and no one was better than us .I've worked with people from all "classes" they are just people, some nice some not so ,its not about what they have or who they think they are.

TillyTrotter Thu 11-Aug-22 15:36:51

Had a posh neighbour once who bought a brand new VW car (all others in the row had old bangers) and she would announce she was “going to visit her mother/brother/whoever in the Passat”.
It was never called a car, always the “Passat”.

Chestnut Thu 11-Aug-22 15:38:02

I don't think anyone is condemning people because of their class, of course there are all types of people in all classes. We are just discussing what is 'posh'.

GrannySomerset Thu 11-Aug-22 15:39:38

My mother’s insistence that I spoke “properly” meant that at my west London girls’ grammar school I was labelled as posh, despite being the scruffiest and probably the poorest girl in the year. Can’t say any of this got in my way!

V3ra Thu 11-Aug-22 15:50:55

TillyTrotter I used to look after a girl (10y) who always referred to her parents' cars as "the Mercedes" and "the BMW" never as "mummy's car" or "daddy's car."
She was a very over-indulged only child and a crashing snob, which was a real shame as her parents were lovely down-to-earth people.

nadateturbe Thu 11-Aug-22 15:54:55

Love it Jazzhands.😆

Aveline Thu 11-Aug-22 15:57:13

There used to be a lot of inverted snobbery about. I found that if people made sarky comments about me for whatever reasons including my name I just said, 'Of course I am very posh.' There was usually a nervous giggle after that. 😑