I was an older divorced woman with a child, he was a self sufficient, solvent bachelor. We discussed children and marriage and decided it was a definite no to both. Five years on I was pregnant (thought it was the menopause!) and he rang his parents to let them know. His parents were delighted and Ma said, well I suppose you'll get married now. It was hardly a romantic moment so I said, no we weren't but a few weeks later I changed my mind. I have never regretted it. he's been a brilliant father and a wonderfully , kind supportive husband. he's still not remotely romantic though.