What should I do with my granny's engagement ring?

singingnuttyshe wanted you to have it, so just keep it and think of her. I’m sure she would have some of her jewellery to her daughter, so I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

Would have left

My mother left her rings to me,I sent them to my cousins daughters who had never met her and whose mother her sister,had died young when they were still in primary school.
They were delighted to get them as a link with the auntie they never knew.
I'm sure your mother would be happy with you passing them back to the person you believe should have had them originally

Your grandmother gave the ring to you because that’s what she wanted to do , it wouldn’t be nice to pass it on to someone else , so don’t worry about it , just cherish it .

Don't worry about what you should do, just what you want to do. If you would feel happier giving the ring to her daughter then offer it to her. There is no right or wrong in this, just do whatever you prefer to do.

This ring is now yours to pass om

Of it feels right give it to the cousin

I agree with Diddydod.

If you pass it on to one of the three daughters, you might start trouble in some way, amongst that family.

Do you have a beautiful box that you could turn into a memory box for the future? Perhaps you could put your grandmother's ring into it with a date and memory on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope. The lady gave it to you with love, could you keep it with love in the box and visit it from time to time? I am sure her daughters will sort out what they and their daughters would like from her current legacy. My uncle made a rocking horse for my daughter and when his daughters found out they were really angry that he had not made one for their children. Sometimes the past is best kept silently in a personal memory keepsake. Are we really responsible for how other people may feel? It's yours, keep it and remember.

Keep it, sell it or give it away. Those seem the main options.

Do what you feel is right.
I inherited some rings which the giver said were to be shared with my sisters. They didn’t want them and gave them back to me.
I’d followed instructions, but once the rings were in my sisters’ hands it was up to them what they did with them.

Chestnut

Don't worry about what you should do, just what you want to do. If you would feel happier giving the ring to her daughter then offer it to her. There is no right or wrong in this, just do whatever you prefer to do.

Exactly this.

I have been wearing my Grans wedding ring since 1996 when her last daughter died and family possessions were shared.It sits inbetween my engagement and wedding rings .I had it dated and they said 1940s.As she and Grandad married in 1905 it must have been a second ring so I am left wondering what happened to the frtirst one.It will go to my own Grandaughter one day. It brings happy memories.

My Gran's engagement ring didn't have stones in it,it had a buckle engraved at the front, she called it a" keeper ring" and wore it as her engagement ring.
She was engaged during WW! so maybe my grandad could not afford diamonds as he was in the Army, though quite a few of her friends of about the same age all had Keeprs rather than engagement, which makes me wonder why?

Chestnut

Don't worry about what you should do, just what you want to do. If you would feel happier giving the ring to her daughter then offer it to her. There is no right or wrong in this, just do whatever you prefer to do.

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I have been wearing my Grans wedding ring since 1996 when her last daughter died and family possessions were shared.It sits inbetween my engagement and wedding rings .I had it dated and they said 1940s.As she and Grandad married in 1905 it must have been a second ring so I am left wondering what happened to the frtirst one.It will go to my own Grandaughter one day. It brings happy memories.

My own mother replaced her wedding ring because the original had worn so thin, it was incorporated into the new one. That is maybe what happened with your Granny

I say, do what YOU want to do with the ring. But rather than keep it lying in a drawer, unused, a female family member may like it and best of all - use it. I inherited a lovely ring from my mother in law, my daughter also admired it. Rather than leave it to her in my will, I wanted to pass it on to her while I am living, so I can see her enjoying wearing it.

I agree with Carenza123 I think it's very sad to leave things unloved and unworn in a drawer, my daughter was left lots of jewelry by her grandma, they weren't her style so she's had them repurposed into something she does wear.

It's yours now to do what you feel is best. As it's a ring, it can't do any harm even if you leave it in your jewellery box until you die and your children decide who gets it. As it could cause problems between three daughters I'd leave it to the one you mention or to a (great)granddaughter of the house. That way it has a family connection. You can't rule from the grave. Once your possessions move to new owners it becomes their property and decision.

Chestnut

Don't worry about what you should do, just what you want to do. If you would feel happier giving the ring to her daughter then offer it to her. There is no right or wrong in this, just do whatever you prefer to do.

I agree with Chestnut and others who say something similar.

It's yours now, to do whatever you want with.
You could leave it in your will to her or her DD if she has one if you decide to keep it in the meantime.

We had a similar situation and it was all sorted out happily although, luckily, it wasn't my decision to make.

I remember reading posts where people said they couldn't possibly wear their mother's engagement ring.

I do, I'm sure she'd be happy to know that, especially since it was nearly sent to the charity shop by mistake!

I wear my mother’s engagement ring, and also my grandmother’s.

Chestnut

Don't worry about what you should do, just what you want to do. If you would feel happier giving the ring to her daughter then offer it to her. There is no right or wrong in this, just do whatever you prefer to do.

This..

I inherited rings from my Mum and an Aunt, I do wear my Mums engagement and eternity rings but all the others I took to local jeweller who assayed there worth and with the money I was able to buy a lovely Pearl dropper that I wear every day. It reminds me of my dear Mum and Aunt and will go to my daughter eventually and hopefully my granddaughter in time.

I would give it to her, I think. It would be a token of appreciation for all that she did and is a part of her family history.
When my mum died we split her jewellery between us and i had her ring cleaned up and repaired and gave it to my daughter the following xmas. It’s precious to her, but not to me.