Looking forward to meeting an old friend today.

Just this minute DH was saying about hindsight being a wonderful thing.
Enjoy your lunch, the years will melt away.

Divorce destroys friendships. When I got divorced, I lost a couple of ‘friends’, who decided to blame me, for my husband’s affair. Ofcourse, there are two sides to every story and I understand.
Enjoy your lunch with your friend. Lots to catch up!!

Narcissists are very convincing liars Sago. It is a shame that so much time has been lost but how lovely that you have the opportunity to meet up with him again.

Enjoy your reunion and look forward to rekindling this friendship.

Home from a lovely walk and lunch.
The years did melt away.
Never leave it too long, it may be too late.

I'm so pleased for you Sago. Thank you for letting us know.

Glad you enjoyed the day. We walk the tightrope with one of our relations wife and ex-wife.

Just before my divorce, my soon to be ex told me to stop seeing xxxx and yyyy and various others because they were his friends! Guess who kept in touch with me all these years?

That’s awful Sago but what a decent man to let you both back into his life after he must have felt so bad losing good friends. He must have gone through hell living with her too. Also well done for recognising it and opening up the friendship again. Our family knows only too well the damage a narcissist can do to one’s life, and ruin a family. She’s still in our lives sadly and we have to suck it up as best we can, but keep her at arms length as much as possible. Their behaviour and constant lies defame and destroy people’s lives.

I heard a radio item about a biography ghost writer. It was a revelation to me that Nobody tells the truth 'straight' - even public figures you'd have the greatest respect for. Everyone edits their past (includes/excludes, changes order of events, who was involved etc). Not particularly meaning to excuse, but just 'that's the way it is'.

Less than a year after moving from the town we'd lived in for decade, as a result of my husband's new job, I found out he was having an affair and we split up. Some of my new friends asked if I would move back but I said no. The children were settled in new schools and I realised that mutual friends may take sides and I didn't want that. I've kept in touch with many of my friends and to a lesser extent with some of the mutual friends but I don't think my ex has at all. Only once have I thought I'd been misjudged as my ex said someone had said something about me that I knew wasn't true, but he wouldn't tell me who had said it! It must be awful to lose friends that way and so glad you have sorted things out so happily.