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How to be happy - 5 golden rules

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Foxygloves Sun 24-Sep-23 08:30:15

Interested by this article in the Sunday Telegraph this morning and wondering what your “Golden Rules” might be.
Sleep longer
Only drink in moderation
Improve your number of social connections
Exercise regularly
Eat an anti- inflammatory diet
Develop a healthy life style at a young age
Here it is in full:
digitaleditions.telegraph.co.uk/data/1435/reader/reader.html?social#!preferred/0/package/1435/pub/1435/page/80/article/NaN
I would add
Keep an open mind about the world, (however much you want to throw your hands up in horror) - avoid “hardening of the attitudes”

Foxygloves Sun 24-Sep-23 08:31:31

And learn to count - I make it SIX blushblushblush

kittylester Sun 24-Sep-23 09:19:11

It doesn't matter how many there are - they are good 'rules' to stick too.

I especially like your addition and would also add mix with people of all types especially the young.

Galaxy Sun 24-Sep-23 09:26:49

Exercise is so under rated for happiness I think.
I would add being outside as quite important.

StacyAnna Sun 24-Sep-23 09:32:09

I would add being outside as quite important

Yes, I think this is very important - seeing, hearing, feeling and being amongst nature is very calming, and also stimulating - physically and mentally.

pascal30 Sun 24-Sep-23 09:44:38

and try new experiences

Cabowich Sun 24-Sep-23 09:47:43

And have enough money to be able to live well.

Witzend Sun 24-Sep-23 09:50:49

Except for catching up very briefly, avoid too much news, given that most of it is so depressing.

Dh is a news addict, so it’s just as well it doesn’t seem to depress him.

Hetty58 Sun 24-Sep-23 09:55:07

Keep your sense of humour - and never take yourself too seriously. If you can see the funny side of (almost) everything, including yourself, life is lighter, more enjoyable.

(I'm sure my very 'sensible' friend - who follows the above rules to the letter - and can't even eat a biscuit without anxiety - will worry herself to death.)

Redhead56 Sun 24-Sep-23 09:56:33

Walking in the woods is the best exercise especially listening to birds nothing can beat it. As for rules not for me guidelines are more appealing I decide what’s good for me I think every thing in moderation.

henetha Sun 24-Sep-23 09:58:13

And trying to be content with what you have

Foxygloves Sun 24-Sep-23 10:01:03

Just remembered - look after your feet!

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 24-Sep-23 10:20:43

We walked through the woods this morning with MissOops dog, birds singing, a squirrel running up a tree, trees filled with chestnuts and a few rhododendrons still in flower, it was beautiful and cheered us up.
We had wellies on, so feet well sorted.

StacyAnna Sun 24-Sep-23 10:24:24

From a walk last week….

StacyAnna Sun 24-Sep-23 10:25:11

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StacyAnna Sun 24-Sep-23 10:25:37

No pic!

MrsKen33 Sun 24-Sep-23 10:31:02

Be inquisitive
Cherish friends
Don’t gossip
Exercise more
Count your blessings

Urmstongran Sun 24-Sep-23 10:32:50

I did all those things on the list. I was a happy go lucky bunny in good health and content with my life. Grateful too. Shared what I have with others less fortunate (a good one to add to the list I think?). Then a devastating illness within our family recently knocked me down like a skittle. True ‘happiness’ eludes me now. I have a feeling it always will. Life events can sideswipe any of us at any time, sadly.

JackyB Sun 24-Sep-23 10:35:56

I once did a dinner party based on "Food that makes you happy" and spent a long time researching it. It was mainly foods that don't bloat or make you feel too full. It was a great success and we really did feel good after it. Keeping to a sensible diet and keeping your digestion in order really is very important. The latest science also shows that what's going on inside your gut has a huge influence on your mood and general wellbeing.

I would say that contentment (which is the best form of happiness) can be achieved by making it a rule to always complete what you start and tidy things away when you've finished. Not only material things but problems, arguments and projects. Perhaps I ought to start practising what I preach.

Jaxjacky Sun 24-Sep-23 10:53:56

Redhead guidelines feels more comfortable as I’ve had some of my best times breaking some or even all of these rules.

Blossoming Sun 24-Sep-23 11:52:19

Foxygloves

Just remembered - look after your feet!

And your teeth grin

StacyAnna Sun 24-Sep-23 12:10:53

Urmstongran

I did all those things on the list. I was a happy go lucky bunny in good health and content with my life. Grateful too. Shared what I have with others less fortunate (a good one to add to the list I think?). Then a devastating illness within our family recently knocked me down like a skittle. True ‘happiness’ eludes me now. I have a feeling it always will. Life events can sideswipe any of us at any time, sadly.

flowers

Kate1949 Sun 24-Sep-23 12:21:29

Urms flowers How right you are. Also, when the sideswipes come one after the other it's hard to follow someone else's 'rules for happiness'. Life really isn't like that.

StacyAnna Sun 24-Sep-23 12:27:41

Kate1949

Urms flowers How right you are. Also, when the sideswipes come one after the other it's hard to follow someone else's 'rules for happiness'. Life really isn't like that.

I fully empathise with what you say (been there, done that with life’s sideswipes), but I guess coping with sadness / disappointments / catastrophes can be helped by self-care (eating and sleeping as well as you can, being with others, going for walks, etc)

Kate1949 Sun 24-Sep-23 12:36:36

Yes StacyAnna. There can't be many who have avoided life changing trauma/shocks.