Are we the only family that does their best but basically aren't very good about Christmas? Every year we gather in some way but increasingly with trepidation. We wish each other well.
I'll detail...presently (xmas changes over the years and decades) my son has wife and three daughters and try as I might I get little back. No conversations with wife or children... My son responds but he too is a bit literal and is always too busy to talk. I now have a condition that makes it impossible for me to travel alone to them in another city a couple of hours away. My daughter has an enormous house and three gardens and a husband a dog and no children and lives nearby. She is tired of the lack of response from her brother and family and wants to just spend the day with her husband, dog, me and mine (dogs not husband).
Her husband's family have just declined invites to her house and she is pleased. My house is small. Of course son and family can come to mine but there is a history of upsets that I'm loathe to risk as I have a serious heart condition and decided to avoid stress whenever I can. I hosted Xmas at my house for 35 years till my mum died. It was easier then, she had expectations that we fulfilled. Now we don't, we just want to go to the beach with the dogs. We buy all the presents and are very generous and hope everything goes well... DIL likes to spend it alone with hubby or with her parents. I understand. (she too has a disability which has only recently been discovered)
I suppose what I want is for my daughter to be the host and for everyone to be happy. The children love her house. And she has said no. I feel she should care more about her nieces (two of whom are disabled) she says. No. Oh dear. My son and DIL have not responded to her general invite. Is this just pre Christmas angst? What do you think? Are we beyond the pale?
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