Grandson aged 22, granddaughter aged 19.
I have had grief and trouble from my son for 40 years. I tried to keep contact for the sake of my grandchildren as he took responsibility for them when his ex partner died about 5 years ago. But I stopped all contact with him last Mother's Day when he texted me with "Why don't you die mother. The sooner you die the better as nobody will miss you". Yes honestly. I tried to keep in touch with grandchildren by text and phone, but it's like banging my head against a brick wall. I haven't seen them since before Covid.
My wonderful husband (second marriage), wants to give a cash gift to his 3 children, as it would benefit them now rather than waiting till we die. It has been agreed that I should give a like amount to my 2 grandchildren, obviously nothing for my son. I texted my grandchildren a week ago saying I would like to see them to give them something which would be to their advantage. I didn't say what it was. My granddaughter replied immediately (surprise surprise) to say she would discuss with grandson re convenient time, and that he would phone me later that day. That was a week ago and I haven't heard anything.
I don't know what to do now. Do I text to remind them, or do nothing, or text and say as they don't appear to be interested it would maybe be better to forget the whole thing.
I am so hurt and upset. What do other grans think?
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