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(30 Posts)
Fuchsiarose Mon 26-Oct-20 22:42:47

Not looking forward to Christmas. It took me five years to get out of a Christmas get together I did not want to be in. I would rather be with ten strangers. But I know covid will prevent that.

Chewbacca Mon 26-Oct-20 23:48:41

Look on the bright side: this year you've got the perfect excuse for not joining the get together you've been avoiding for 5 years. Silver linings and all that......

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 03:40:30

Not really.... I spent last five years finding excuses not to go.... even illness. But they came round Christmas to try and pick me up anyway..... the invites for this Christmas are already coming in.... these people as well. Do they never take the hint. Covid sropping me from going elsewhere.... plus the amputation I just had which will surely bring them out of the woodwork in December.lol

M0nica Tue 27-Oct-20 06:47:33

Tell them you have got COVID, or that a friend (unspecified has it and you are in quarantine, possibly long COVID.

Whitewavemark2 Tue 27-Oct-20 06:52:23

M0nica

Tell them you have got COVID, or that a friend (unspecified has it and you are in quarantine, possibly long COVID.

😲

SpringyChicken Tue 27-Oct-20 07:03:04

Ooh Monica. As my mum used to say, never tempt fate.

FannyCornforth Tue 27-Oct-20 07:55:42

M0nica you've got the wrong end of the stick.
OP has said that she is not going anywhere.
Therefore, she doesn't need an excuse.
None the less, it would be a bit mad (to say the least) to say that you've got long Covid when you haven't. confused

lemongrove Tue 27-Oct-20 08:10:53

If you are now out of some social thing you didn’t like at Christmas, then what’s the problem? Better to be home on your own isn’t it?

Puzzler61 Tue 27-Oct-20 08:20:50

Fucshiarose you could enjoy Christmas 2020 if you choose a person whose company you enjoy - who is also on their own - and invite them to share a meal, socially distanced at all times, in your home on the day.
NB It does depend where you live if this is allowed.
It could be your best Christmas Day for a long time. 🌲

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 08:32:25

That's true. But where would I find such a person. Anyone know of meet a xmas dinner buddy

Lisagran Tue 27-Oct-20 11:03:01

I have to ask, Fuchsiarose, have you really just had an amputation?

M0nica Tue 27-Oct-20 17:01:05

FannyCornforth Fuchsia is looking for a reason not to socialise with an undefined group at Christmas. What better excuse than saying she has COVID or is in quarantine because she was in the company of someone who has it?

MawB2 Tue 27-Oct-20 17:10:54

Do you remember the Just Say No campaign?

Just say no! (Thank you)

FannyCornforth Tue 27-Oct-20 17:51:09

M0nica

FannyCornforth Fuchsia is looking for a reason not to socialise with an undefined group at Christmas. What better excuse than saying she has COVID or is in quarantine because she was in the company of someone who has it?

Sorry to reiterate this.
No she isn't. She hasn't spent Christmas with them for five years.
Please read her posts

FannyCornforth Tue 27-Oct-20 17:53:19

MawB2

Do you remember the Just Say No campaign?

Just say no! (Thank you)

Hi Maw, it's quite a confusing thread.
But op isn't going anywhere for Christmas, and I think that she regrets making excuses in the past.

Summerlove Tue 27-Oct-20 18:04:56

Fuchsiarose

Not really.... I spent last five years finding excuses not to go.... even illness. But they came round Christmas to try and pick me up anyway..... the invites for this Christmas are already coming in.... these people as well. Do they never take the hint. Covid sropping me from going elsewhere.... plus the amputation I just had which will surely bring them out of the woodwork in December.lol

Can you not just tell them you are uncomfortable visiting this year?

Oopsadaisy4 Tue 27-Oct-20 18:21:10

Stop hinting and tell them straight that you don’t want to be with them.

However, it’s only 1 day, make it your Christmas present to them.

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 19:33:20

Oopsadaisy. Urggh! It's just too far from my mind ,one day, even one minute would be too long.

Marydoll Tue 27-Oct-20 19:38:50

Fuchsiarose, have you had an amputation? I hope it was one of those predictive texts error and not for real!
That's awful! I hope you are not on your own.

Charleygirl5 Tue 27-Oct-20 19:44:20

I agree with Marydoll if it is true how on earth are you coping? That is really awful. I would forget about Christmas unless of course you would need a friend to help- it rather changes things I think.

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 19:45:43

Yes. I am on my own. Did have amputation, been at hospital again today. Sister picked me up. Taxi there. My sister and I were both saying today that the only thing our parents gave us was resilience. We still put flowers on our mothers grave. We cannot condemn her for her Learning Difficulty. Which we did not know about until our twenties. Also, I will only worry about things when I am dead. Our mother did her best with the limited skill set she had

Marydoll Tue 27-Oct-20 19:47:45

Could you not spend Christmas with your sister?

Marydoll Tue 27-Oct-20 19:51:56

How awful for you, as if life is not hard enough just now. sad

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 19:55:35

I could spend Christmas with my sister, but she is like an escapologist with her family. She dreams of the day, that her and I can disappear xmas and new year in a campervan or travelling abroad. I told her we would be to old and ill when that day arrives.lol

MawB2 Tue 27-Oct-20 23:43:42

My apologies I took it as still trying to get out of this get-together.