Best friend angry at my positive test!

You have nothing to apologise for, so please don’t.

I think your friend should apologise to you for overreacting over something that was out with your control. It sounds like you have behaved responsibly and that’s more than can be said for many who go around disregarding the guidelines.

I hope you’re feeling better after your illness.

Your best friend is not being much of a best friend No one knows what’s what you can have it and pass it on with virtually no symptoms whereas one of my granddaughters had all the symptoms and had been with a friend who tested positive but she was totally negative did two NHS tests as did her mum all negative
Nothing at all to apologise for

I don’t think you should in anyway apologise - you did absolutely nothing wrong - you, like the majority of us would not put her or others at any risk and you followed all the guidelines - your friend needs to stand back and check herself. I have lost a very close friend ship for similar reasons and although l miss her, l decided that her judgment of me was damaging to my well-being. We’ve all been through alot over these many months and you’actually had the virus - she should just be thankful that you are now well and that she has so far not caught it.

That's not a good friend. "all my friends agree" is a huge red flag for me.

I apologised to a good friend this last few days as 2 of my children tested positive by lft the day after we saw her. Her response "you have nothing to apologise for! You couldn't have known".

Each and every one of us right now embrasses the risk every time we go anywhere and see friends. That's personal choice, we all know the situation.

Your friend is making this all about her. Testing after possible exposure is just part of the rules the whole country should be following. You are not responsible for covid, covid measures or the small inconvenience of testing. A lot of families are lft testing twice a week as a matter of routine.

You have done nothing to apologise for.

Apologise? What for?

Tell her that you are angry at it too. You didn't want it, you didn't ask for it and it has inconvenienced you far more than it has her. Ask her if she would have angry at you for being knocked down in the street and injured?

Very heart-warming to get such instant feedback. Indeed - I know many people have positive lateral flow tests and don't even bother to send off for the PCR test or self-isolate specially if they are not feeling ill. As someone said - covid is everywhere and no one can avoid it. I certainly told everyone I could, but didn't go round apologising - in fact all I got were messages of sympathy and offers of help. My friend insinuated I shouldn't be going out even now - or should never have done so in the first place, as if I wasn't being 'careful' enough and was casually spreading it around!

I would give yourself a break from your friend.If this is unusual behaviour from her, just ignore it for now, is she going through stressful times do you think?
Least said soonest mended with friends I always think.
She may well apologise to you at some point.

Completely unreasonable. If it happened because she is stressed at the moment she might see that her response was unreasonable. I suspect that she is terrified of Covid and as the possible source you took the brunt of her terror and anger. You have to decide how much you are willing to go along with that.

Maybe, if you want to, ask her to explain her fears and upset, listen to her. Then explain your perspective. Don't argue, just explain. If she argues just say, "Yes I know that is your perspective,. This is mine! " Then just suggest that you both move on from this. Her response will help you decide what you want to do with this friendship in future.

Playing devil's advocate

"Of course I would be extremely sorry for anyone contracting covid from me (and I admit I have not been as 'covid-conscious' as some, including my friend, though I have adhered to the guidelines)"

Could part of her anger come from this?
The guidelines do not always make sense or were safe enough for some people (like removing masks in summer in the US for vaccinated people)

It is possible that your friend passed it on to you when you met up the previous week.

Sorry to say but the best friend is acting very childish, you have zilch to apologise for, and I certainly wouldn’t be!

You don’t need whimps as so-called friends you have done nothing wrong.

We all have to make judgements and take responsibility for ourselves. Of course it’s not your fault. She’s reacted so badly, I’m struggling to work out why she socialises at all. It is and will continue to be...a risk.

She sounds awful. She’s making it all about her. Drop her.
You’ve clearly had a tough time so I’m glad you’re feeling better.

She’s the one that needs to apologise!

So happy that you were all here for me with so much support. It means a lot to have this site to come to. Thank you!

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Playing devil's advocate

"Of course I would be extremely sorry for anyone contracting covid from me (and I admit I have not been as 'covid-conscious' as some, including my friend, though I have adhered to the guidelines)"

Could part of her anger come from this?
The guidelines do not always make sense or were safe enough for some people (like removing masks in summer in the US for vaccinated people)

I think I’d be a bit fed up if I had continued to follow hands face space ventilate and had been put at risk by someone not following them because the government had said they ‘didn’t need to’. And we all need to find out what the latest symptoms are even though the government don’t seem to bother updating them any more. It’s almost as if they want everyone to catch it (surely not )…

Your friend has obviously been gossiping about you, maybe not as good a friend as you thought, don’t apologize and let her contact you.