I couldn't agree more Ginny. It does take a strong character to not allow a disinterested partner to have a negative affect on their relationship with their parents and wider family.
Sadly, even with a strong family bond these ties can be and are broken.
In our case to begin with, our ES was more than a little skeptical of his wife's 'reasons' for opting out of family gatherings. Eventually he went from seeing us on his own to cutting us out all together.
Why having a relationship with his own parents and allowing them to be GP's to their GC was a threat to his marriage, heaven knows, but I suppose it must have been.
Saving running away money - 'leaving fund'
What loutish behaviour - Boris manspreading
I'm uglier than yesterday - I'm aghast