Nonnie, I understood you to mean one family member, not MANY- I used MANY to describe my own situation- I was clear about that -- see above-
The way I see it, I am fortunate to have wholehearted relationships with a few people- Sometimes I wish the number were greater, but accept that many people prefer not to discuss difficult situations, who prefer estrangement instead-
I honestly didn't consider it just sad to notice peoples disregard and distance when my husband passed- I found it perplexing more than anything else really- Neither he or I engaged in the practice of being traditionalists- It wasn't until he died that I realized just how many placed the responsibility on me to meet their expectations-
However, I chose not to do that-
Those who didn't concern themselves with expectations saw to making the effort to simply being together or connecting in whatever capacity appropriate-
I'm open to discussion, I answer my phone, my emails and texts -- eventually- My door is unlocked, nobody knocks, they know they are welcome, they just come in-