I have been distancing myself from a friend for quite some time. Because I am estranged from my NM I found how critical and demeaning she is about her own daughter too tough to listen to. This is unfortunately not someone I can avoid completely because we are neighbours.
Well recently her daughter refuses to talk to her. She wants me to intervene and talk to the daughter. She wants me to find out why the daughter won't speak to her and explain to her that "she doesn't know what a bad mum is compared to yours".
The thing is that I also know the daughter well and have babysat her frequently. She is a sweet, shy person and has gotten herself in a few bad situations as an adult which I feel may not have happened had her mother been more supportive.
Also, given the discussions I have had with my neighbour over the years, the daughter has given clear reasons why their relationship became distant after she moved out, my neighbour simply denies them. She will accept no fault or blame and when I have gently tried to point out she was being unreasonable, she just became angry.
I have said no very clearly several times now and my neighbour is still perusing me relentlessly.
What would you do in this situation?
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