Inspired by a conversation here, those who have parented after abuse, how has that led you to positively change your parenting?
An example for me is that my NM was always extremely critical. It just demotivated me to the point I just stopped trying because it made no difference, it wouldn't be good enough anyway.
As a parent I'm really careful about being critical. Never use labels like difficult or naughty. I always tell my children that their best is absolutely good enough. If they say they can't do it, I always say you can't do it yet. I'm careful not to do the reverse either and put too much pressure on by saying they are so clever and amazing etc.
What have you learned?
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