DH an EAC - my children

Hmmm... It sounds like they're aiming for a brief visit in a public place, anticipating/fearing drama. While I get that, given the bad history, I also agree that it's as if they are treating you two as an "afterthought."

Regardless, IMO, you are right to follow DH's lead in this. If he doesn't feel comfortable w/ this idea, then there's no point in meeting them.

Thank you everyone. Focusing on getting on with enjoying Christmas. We have Father Christmas visit coming up and panto.

Starylady - trying not to dwell on it but unfortunately DHs parents are not averse to drama or being difficult. DH is Grade A in avoiding awkward situations or smiling through anything.

He sounds like Mr. S. betty.

Hopefully by not going to see his parents you can avoid drama and difficulties. The Father Christmas visit and panto sound great; have fun.

That's so sad. My mum always said she just wasn't that maternal. I said she could see my children but she didn't want to and then she moved and I don't know where she is now. You both sound lovely and I'm sure your babies will be fine x

I just don't understand why a GM wouldn't want to see her GC.

We don't know ours because we're not allowed any contact with them and it's been that way for 7 years now. I suppose if the GP's don't care the GC are better off without them.

An indifferent, uninterested GP is worse than an absent GP imo. Children struggle to understand why someone who is supposed to love and care for them is just not bothered about them and has very little/no interest. From my experience, they keep trying to catch their GP's attention and then worry that they've done something "wrong". Flyingfree, you're children are best off without their GPS.

I've never really looked at it that way @Chewbacca, it's just really sad. I'm sure that isn't what she would say but I know the truth x

I agree Chewbacca I just can't understand why any GP fortunate enough to be in their GC's lives would be disinterested. What we wouldn't give to be a part of ours.

Be very cautious. My paternal grandmother was a nasty person who was furious when her children married. She especially hated that my Mum was Irish! She eventually got what she wanted and split my parents up. She would deliberately let her badly trained dog loose on me knowing how frightened I was. She even inferred that I was a tart when I was 10 years old and still reading Famous Five books. Luckily my other Gran was totally different.