The greatest failure.

Who's telling their granny how to suck eggs ?
Many here have approached their 50th Wedding Anniversary !

EllanVannin

Learn how to sustain a healthy loving relationship with people who don't mirror yourself.

Or those who are not spineless enablers.

However, do look where we are.

52 years today. I think we've got the hang of it now.

Not as long as you EllanVannin and merlotgran but fast approaching our 40th so yes, I think we've got the hang of it too.

Congratulations on your 52nd Wedding Anniversary merlotgran

Happy Wedding Anniversary Merlotgran wishing you a continued long and happy life together ?
I agree, I think you’ve got your head around it.

We’re doing ok here too, at 44years ...

Length does not always show health I am afraid, as with the poor murdered pensioner in the news today killed by a long term abusive husband. All have not learned these lessons.

I am glad for those who do have healthy relationships.

This post does focus on those who have lost what should have been long term healthy relationships between close family.

We are in Estrangement after all

And what was once a long term healthy relationship between close family, can be lost due to the presence of someone outside of that relationship.

Many Congratulations to all of you who have enjoyed long and (on the whole) happy marriages. ??? to you all.

I find that hard to believe personally Smileless2012 but it obviously helps you.

Aww that's lovely Chewbacca just what we need at this time, kindness.

Sadly, there are many many partners and children stuck in lock down with abusive and sometimes dangerous individuals right now. Abusive people do not deserve kindness in any situation and hard conversations need to be had about it.

Anything seen or heard can still be reported to authorities. It still amazes me how many ignore the signs of abuse.

Thank you Chewbacca ...45 years here. Some of them far from perfect but toleration on both sides has seen us through so far.
Life is a learning curve Starblaze. Have you perfectly learned all that you list in your original post? Personally 1'm still learning. My own long life experience suggests that you should maybe add tolerance and forgiveness to your list.

A good suggestion 52bright and I would add not judging others because what they say doesn't correspond with your personal beliefs or experience.

I agree that length doesn't denote quality-

To see where "we" are would involve shared effort, to lean into learning rather than knowing in order to get it right collectively-

The attachment is from Brene Brown-

Thank you for the anniversary good wishes. We're having a bit of a virtual party here with friends from the Isle of Wight joining in as it's where we were married. This is when good old facebook saves the day!

My three bridesmaids are sending daft messages and remembering good times.

That sounds lovely merlotgran enjoy your virtual party.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Length doesn't denote quality I agree neither does it mean that quality in the relationship is lacking either.

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Yes it is but never mind, maybe you'll think of something to respond with later.

Have you not grown out of "I know you are but what am I?" type behaviour Smileless2012?

I agree, length doesn't mean that it's lacking-