Thanks so much for starting a new thread Smileless. You have brought comfort to so many, including me!
So, my mother in law is in hospital, pneumonia, 50/50 chance of survival. A wonderful and inspirational woman, whom I love dearly, and my sister in law, whom I’m also close to (DH’s sister) has been diagnosed with a serious heart condition, potentially fatal, but is having surgery the week after next. Does it ever end?
Two more people who loved DD1 so much, especially her granny, who sent her a special birthday message when she was so ill. Someone DD1 did not inform that she had a great grandchild. Despite her grandparents moving closer to us to spend time with their grandchildren and always being a much loved part of the family.
I so hope MIL pulls through, although I suspect she is ambivalent, has dementia with good days and bad days, and misses her husband and son (my DH) so much. But I hope that she can be around to support her daughter and also DD2 and DD3 would be devastated to lose her, so soon after their Dad and beloved aunt. Sometimes I just feel that I am surrounded by ghosts!
All of this is making me feel angry with DD1 again, although I am trying to resist it, as I know it does no good. I genuinely don’t know if all of this is because she is in a controlling relationship (she says son in law made her cut contact), whether she collaborated, or both.
Like Derbyshire Lass, whose posts I find totally inspiring, I am playing along, the long game, hoping to have enough contact to build a relationship with my DGC, despite the geographical distance. I also won’t be browbeaten or beg, or pay to have a relationship.
I just tread water from day to day in this strange, surreal world I have joined.
Sorry to sound a bit negative, but I think we all value this thread as we can be ourselves. Better to vent here than with DD1, play into SIL’s hands, and make a delicate situation worse!