I haven't posted here in some time, but the NC issue always seems to crop up around Christmas (sadly).
DHs father and new wife have never had very much contact with us. We aren't fully estranged, but every time DH has contact with FIL it tends not to go well - FIL being very rude about DDs private education for example. They've met DDs only twice, and although we've invited them a number of times they've never come. Quite a few years ago (several years before covid) DH and I decided that to be involved in the girls lives we'd need them to have a more normal relationship with us first.
Now we've started receiving letters and DH is getting phone calls at work blaming us for the estrangement and saying we are standing in the way of them having a relationship with DDs.
What is fair in this situation? I know there are quite a lot of estranged GPs on here so I'd want to know what you would consider 'fair' in terms of restarting contact. I don't want to be a diva about it, but I also want to protect my children from someone who appears flaky to me, a bit of a bully and hasn't been able to form a relationship with DH. I also worry that this is their 'flavour of the month' battle as they have fallen out with everyone else in the extended family (who we reguarly see).
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