I am new to this forum. I am so happy to find a place where people can share stories on this topic of estrangement. I wanted to condense my story, otherwise I would of written a novel (best seller at that!) My story starts in 2013, a lot of drama happend in the family of which ; according to everyone I was the cause of it. I did a noble gesture by reporting theft of money from my Mom’s bank account from a family member. I had this investigated hoping that I was wrong, but it turned out even worse then I thought. My 2 adult children could not understand and did not approve of my findings, they wanted to stay in the dark. I was branded a crazy person and the family member turned the table on me to say I was after my mothers money- far from the truth. They made sure to destroy my character to relatives and friends of the family along with my children. 2016 my mother passed away, the funeral was quite a disgusting display, I on once side and everyone else including my children stayed on the other side. I cannot believe what went on, what a sad way to honour my Mother. After that things got worse with my 2 children, communications stopped no more phone calls, happy birthdays, Christmas gatherings etc. It was like I was dead to them (ouch that hurt me so much) At this point I needed to compose myself (being a child from a dysfunctional family really did a number on me) I knew I had to stay away from everyone including my children, they made that obvious. As time went by I tried to have some phone calls with my children, but it was not the same. I was like a scared little girl reaching out to my adult child, not normal. It was obvious to me I felt guilty and shamed about this situation. I had to work on this, so I let more time go by. Now fast forward to 2022, not much progress with my children. Several attempts of phone calls did not accomplish much, they seem to not want to deal with me. I have moments of sadness, heartbreak and worst of all I feel they betrayed me (even worse) I wish them much happiness in life and hope things will change as the age further, for now I am living in Limbo with this situation.
Scottish island ferries debacle. 🏴
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They don't really care do they
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