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My doctor called me 'An elderly Lady.'

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Venus Fri 05-Mar-21 11:44:50

I saw my doctor in surgery the other day and she referred to me as an 'elderly lady'. To be honest, I was somewhat taken aback by this description as I've never thought of myself as such. I admit to being middle seventies, but I've always considered myself to be modern and have always coloured my hair, so no grey. I would add she looked like she had just come out of school!

When does someone become elderly?

midgey Fri 05-Mar-21 12:03:12

Personally I’m not elderly (73) but I do see a lot of elderly people about! 😀

silverlining48 Fri 05-Mar-21 12:04:09

I am only a couple of years behind you but up until recently I thought of myself as middle aged. I struggle progressing to elderly though my children could be regarded as such now I think about it. I wear jeans for heavens sake! smile I don’t think we ever see ourselves as old until perhaps bad health strikes.
Carry on carrying on.

Blossoming Fri 05-Mar-21 12:08:56

Are you sure she was talking about you Venus?

I don’t label myself as ‘elderly’ but I have to admit that the newness has definitely worn off some bits...

Kate1949 Fri 05-Mar-21 12:09:02

My 93 year old neighbour was upset when her GP described her as elderly!

eazybee Fri 05-Mar-21 12:09:08

I accept old, but elderly is five years older than my current age.
Kick the doctor with your Doc Martens.

Peasblossom Fri 05-Mar-21 12:11:17

In medical physiological terms you are one of the elderly, I’m afraid.

If you were middle aged that would mean living till you were 150!

EllanVannin Fri 05-Mar-21 12:15:54

I'm not old at 80 either, it's the new 60 so far as I'm concerned.grin When you start getting the odd twinge.

trisher Fri 05-Mar-21 12:16:01

I was an "elderly prima gravida" when I had my first child. As was anybody who gave birth after 30 for the first time. I've had 40 years to get used to the word elderly it doesn't bother me now! grin

janeainsworth Fri 05-Mar-21 12:16:34

I think once someone stops being middle- aged they progress to being ‘older’ or ‘elderly’. It’s just a chronological description.
If you’re in your seventies, as I am, then you’re kidding yourself if you think of yourself as middle-aged.
If you think ‘elderly’ is in some way a derogatory term with negative connotations, then you’re being a bit ageist yourself.

janeainsworth Fri 05-Mar-21 12:17:21

Perhaps I should market some badges with ‘Old and Proud’ on them.

Urmstongran Fri 05-Mar-21 12:23:24

I just suppose in medical terms, the reality is your heart, liver, kidneys are 70+ years old which is all your doctor is concerned about. Not whether you colour your hair or wear skinny jeans.
😊

grandMattie Fri 05-Mar-21 12:24:02

I was laughingly commenting about that to a friend who was anA&E doctor. Oh yes, she said, when prescribing, anyone over 60 is ‘elderly’! So...

FannyCornforth Fri 05-Mar-21 12:28:43

janeainsworth

I think once someone stops being middle- aged they progress to being ‘older’ or ‘elderly’. It’s just a chronological description.
If you’re in your seventies, as I am, then you’re kidding yourself if you think of yourself as middle-aged.
If you think ‘elderly’ is in some way a derogatory term with negative connotations, then you’re being a bit ageist yourself.

Bang on Jane
My thoughts exactly
It's a pathetic waste of time getting het up about age
My wonderful mom died aged 50
I wish to God she were here and in her mid 70s

Katie59 Fri 05-Mar-21 12:28:54

Pension age is elderly however young you feel I will claim any discount that being elderly allows and there are quite a lot.

Parky Fri 05-Mar-21 12:44:08

Yup, as far as the medical profession is concerned over 60s are elderly, at that age you don't 'trip over' you 'have a fall' and can be referred to the geriatric nurse for help with balance.

Personally I prefer elderly to geriatric smile

Tangerine Fri 05-Mar-21 12:47:45

I think you are, in medical terms, elderly. I accept you may well look young and have a young at heart attitude.

grandmajet Fri 05-Mar-21 12:48:36

I saw an elderly lady walking towards me the other day - it was my reflection in a window!

aonk Fri 05-Mar-21 12:52:07

My dear Grandma was once asked by the Vicar to go on a coach outing for older parishioners. She was over 80 at the time and refused to go out with a lot of old people. The Vicar replied that he would need her help in various ways. Of course she went!

Littleannie Fri 05-Mar-21 13:12:51

On my doctor's computer screen I saw that I was described as 'elderly moderately frail".
I am in my early seventies. I swim 25 lengths of the pool 3 times a week, walk everywhere as I don't drive, do all the shopping housework and gardening, cook proper meals from scratch. Last week I decorated the hall and large sitting room. I do the Telegraph cryptic crossword every day.
I asked the nurse why I was described like that on the computer. She said it is a general term they use for everybody over 65. I was most offended.

annodomini Fri 05-Mar-21 13:20:01

To be called an 'elder' in many cultures is an honourable description. Why is it that when the suffix -ly is added, it seems to be derogatory?

timetogo2016 Fri 05-Mar-21 13:22:09

That made me LOL midgey.
Brilliant.

Esspee Fri 05-Mar-21 13:51:44

Elderly is anyone at least 10 years older than me. This will apply no matter how old I am.

cornergran Fri 05-Mar-21 14:05:40

A decent referral letter described me as a pleasant elderly lady. I agreed with two of the words grin.

MerylStreep Fri 05-Mar-21 14:15:06

I think there are a lot of women our age who believe they still look young and youthful.
We wear the clothes, do the hair and makeup in today’s style, walk upright etc etc.
But the truth is: we still look old. That’s unless you have friends in their 80s / 90s who tell you your still a spring chicken and how good you look.