You will need to sit down with a brandy hahaha, no, its not THAT bad but its lengthy to round it all up into a simple explanation ...
I will try ....
So for the best part of 30 years i havent broached a certain subject within the marriage, i won't say i havent dare raise the subject, i will just say that i knew if i did raise the subject then it would raise the roof ( by me, so i was trying my level best to keep that elephant behind a strong locked door)
Then after keeping the elephant tamed for best part if 30 years, IT ESCAPED 2 DAYS AGO......
Ok,ok so it was ME who unlocked its door but whoaaaa I had done so well keeping it under lock n key......