Hello - I have not been on here for a LONG while as I have been very busily raising my Grandson with special needs for the past nearly 2 years!
Time has flown indeed but after dealing with lots of stress due to the whole situation in the midst of it all there is a VERY HAPPY LITTLE MAN WHO IS DOING SO WELL! :-) :-)
I wanted my daughter who is an alcoholic to recover one day yet things are not working out how I HOPED :-(
After nearly 3 years of her son being in care ( he was fostered for a year then thankfully placed with me!!! ) she finally stops drinking ( good! ) BUT there are other issues etc which she is not willing to deal with which I have questioned the social worker about but because my daughter legally has parental responsibility still and the first goal is always for reunification if possible ie child returned to birth parents my concerns are not really taken seriously as it seems now he would have to be at risk of SIGNIFICANT harm which apparently he is not since she has stopped drinking now
It does have to be proven long term and she has to do hair strand testing and a parenting assessment but I do not think she will have a problem with that
The fact that she is still smoking cannabis I have been told by the social worker is a non issue , the fact that she lied to me and the family to try and obtain unsupervised contact last week by pretending a family member will be with him and that he was going to his Aunt for the night when he wasn't so therefore trying to get overnight contact unsupervised was a non issue as well with the social worker as she still has parental responsibility and legally is allowed to 'take him at any time' but if he was in immediate risk they would then probably go to court and get a care order
Am not sure what they will think about her ex coming round to her house during contact this week , smoking a spliff outside then coming back in proper spaced out in front of my Grandson or the fact that he has just been released from prison for MURDER ( what the HECK is she thinking?? ) but she will probably just 'promise' to stop seeing him if they pull her up on that one
Fact is I am concerned she is in no way near ready to have him back yet is stating Christmas as her deadline for taking him and if she is proven clean etc none of us may have a leg to stand on legally as the other concerns don't put him at risk of significant or immediate harm apparently even though mentally I still feel she is not well enough or near well enough to have him :-(
So my concern and heart is breaking for little man :-( :-( xx
P.S She is moving into a 2 bedroom flat next week and will be ''showing him his room!'' and has already told him the rug and lamp etc he saw at her flat is for ''his room'' :-(
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic