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AIBU to ban my 2yr old grandson?

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ReadyMeals Wed 13-Feb-19 11:14:14

He comes to my house and immediately points out any bit of crumb or fluff on my floor, to make me feel like an inadequate housekeeper. He fetches the dustpan and brush to clean them, which I should feel thankful for, except to add injury to insult he make more mess and mayhem trying to clean than there was already. Would it be unreasonable to stop him visiting until he can accept my home as it is? He turned two last month and has been doing this since he was about 20 months old.

Grannybags Wed 13-Feb-19 11:18:54

Yes! He's only two.

My GD used to love sweeping the floor and it was treated as a game. As you say, making more mess, but I find the more fun we have the more mess we make!

crystaltipps Wed 13-Feb-19 11:27:03

Yes ban him until he is 18 and will not notice any fluff in the carpet. 😊

Beau Wed 13-Feb-19 11:27:27

My DGS the same age does this at home and at my house - I actively encourage it as I think it's brilliant that he hands over bits of fluff or tiny bits of plastic wrapping rather than doing anything else with them. Ashamed to say I smashed the base of a wine glass the other day and even though I went over the floor with vacuum and cloth he found a piece of glass which had bounced to the other side of the kitchen and handed it over. He loves sweeping, dustpan and brushing, emptying the dishwasher, putting damp clothes in the tumble dryer - all of it seems very helpful to me. He tells his dad off for not closing the stair gate too and then closes it himself 😂

ReadyMeals Wed 13-Feb-19 11:28:00

Lol crystaltipps :D

gillybob Wed 13-Feb-19 11:28:27

My GD used to love sweeping the floor and it was treated as a game. As you say, making more mess, but I find the more fun we have the more mess we make

I totally agree with you Grannybags my grandchildren have always had a thing about cleaning. My little grandson (now 9) used to love to stand on a stepping stool with his squirty bottle and a cloth and "clean the windows" making all kinds of mess. I had the cleanest windows in the North East!

sparkly1000 Wed 13-Feb-19 11:39:32

My GD age 3 pointed out cobwebs so I gave her a colourful feather duster with an easily extendable handle and now leave the cobwebs for her. She loves it as its her special job.

EllanVannin Wed 13-Feb-19 11:47:10

Ban ? A bit drastic isn't it ? Buy a little brush and shovel set and let him get on with it, taking no notice at the same time.
He's two for goodness sake !

HildaW Wed 13-Feb-19 11:50:02

Methinks you have a bit of a chip on your shoulder. He's two! Buy him a toy ash pan, a feather duster...even a toy 'henry' and a pinny and enjoy the game.

H1954 Wed 13-Feb-19 11:51:53

I agree with EllanVannin, he's only two and if you ban him from your home you'll miss out on so much. Get him a toy cleaning set and save some "dirt" for him to clean; precious memories n the making!

grannyactivist Wed 13-Feb-19 11:55:09

I'm guessing your tongue is firmly in your cheek ReadyMeals. hmm

ReadyMeals Wed 13-Feb-19 11:55:18

He doesn't need a toy set, he's happy to use the real full size things! My daughter sent me a video of him trying to clean her worktops - standing on a chair, cloth dripping with water and it all running down the cupboards.

ffinnochio Wed 13-Feb-19 11:57:05

Is this a wind up? Seriously?
He 2 !

No 2 yr old ‘can make you feel like ...(fill in the blanks)... Only you can do that.

Strewth!

Ginny42 Wed 13-Feb-19 11:59:39

My DS loved my little hand-held hoover and would happily search out bits to hoover up. Don't let him grow up thinking cleaning is a woman's job - let him get on with cleaning!

maryeliza54 Wed 13-Feb-19 12:03:43

Not a wind up but a lovely funny thread that’s made me smile - thanks OP

gillybob Wed 13-Feb-19 12:13:47

Just remembering my grandson when he was about 3 or 4......
I have always fed the birds and the grandchildren love putting the nuts/seeds/dried worms on the bird table. One lovely sunny day while I was preparing lunch my grandson got his mitts on the tin of bird food and scattered a trail of it from the bird table up the garden, through the dining room doors and up the first set of stairs..... before I caught him. "What on earth are you doing?" I asked. "just seeing if the birds will follow the trail up to our bedroom grandma". I really couldn't be too upset about it, as when I told him that they are wild birds and don't like to come in doors, he trotted happily to the broom cupboard and got the dust pan and brush out and started to clean it all up, making more mess than we started with. smile

HildaW Wed 13-Feb-19 12:21:54

ffinochio......well that was my first thought but evidently one is not allowed to question posters that way.......!

Riverwalk Wed 13-Feb-19 12:26:26

I'd go No Contact!

When DGS was about 4 he stood in the middle of my sitting room, looked around and declared

'Grandma, your house is very small'

Well yeah, it is compared to yours but at least mine's paid for! grin

Anja Wed 13-Feb-19 12:28:31

ReadyMeals is a regular poster.

Harness his inner Molly Maid. Set to work on the skirting board. Show him how the vacuum cleaner works. Let him wash the dishes, the floor, the car and the dog.

He might make a pigs ear of it now but imagine in a few years time what a comfort he will be to you in your twilight years.

Telly Wed 13-Feb-19 12:28:37

OP - this can't really be serious? With so many Grans posting that they never get to see their GC you want to ban yours - for cleaning??!!

ReadyMeals Wed 13-Feb-19 12:29:07

Lol! Yep, I didn't think of that. No contact it is!

sodapop Wed 13-Feb-19 12:29:59

Riverwalk gringrin

I had a similar comment about the size of our TV set. Good job my husband keeps his trousers on !!

Telly Wed 13-Feb-19 12:30:51

My GS aged about 4 asked Dil if Nana was coming over. When she replied that I was, he told her she had better get the vacuum out then! Sadly he did not see himself in that role.

Cherrytree59 Wed 13-Feb-19 12:34:12

Gilly that is so cutesmile.

My DD ( at 2 or 3yrs) popped the fuscha buds on her grandads prized fuscha. He was not very happy, but was still welcome in his garden.

Toddlers antics are the stuff of family legend.
And can be the source of embarrassment great mirth with at 18th, 21st weddings etcgrin

ffinnochio Wed 13-Feb-19 12:34:52

A 😊 and or a 😉 might have lighten the tone of the OP.

... and my comment, too 😊.

No doubt it’ll be removed if my comments were considered inappropriate. 🙃