Thanks for all your replies...
Hithere, weird? no, I don't find it weird at all! She hasn't had it from her Aunt so whenever she visits for a stay which is always both summer and Christmas time she enjoys having cuddles, snuggles on the sofa watching a film with me or even random cuddles at opportune moments throughout the day, we may of been chatting about her life, her Mum and what she was like as a baby/youngster, teenager. Then she will just say something along the lines of... "That makes me feel better Nan let's have a cuddle and then I'm going to watch my TV in my room"
Chewbacca, YES! All of the things you have written. You put it perfectly, it is exactly that! Thank you.
CafeAuLait, I'm not surprised myself she is giving attitude for the reasons you write, she knows she is not wanted and feels rejected. Aunt has no children of her own and therefore never been through the "teenage years" and while I commende her for taking her on, I wish I would of been able to have her at the time then maybe GD wouldn't be feeling the ways she is now? We live a couple of hundred miles away from where she is and was born so at the time it was deemed best that she was placed with her aunt, near her parents and less distributions.
Luckygirl, yes teenagers can be a struggle, having been through it twice with my own two so I'm aware of all it brings. I think because she feels unloved, rejected and not nurtured she is feeling well if you couldn't give a toss then why should I?!
denbylover having her in this awful situation can't go on that's for sure! That's what we have decided to do. Thank you.
Nacky, thank you so much! I was hoping to hear from someone who has been through what we're about to do. I'm so pleased to hear it worked out very well for you and that your granddaughter is now thriving. In time I hope that will be us too.
It's such a daunting challenge and not one I'd of hoped to be facing in my 50s, thought my child rearing days were over and I'd have all the fun but get to hand them back! That's life though isn't it? It throws us curve balls.
I would dearly like to take up your kind offer of messaging you to find what worked for you. Thank you so very much, just have to find out how I do that?