I ve never started a thread before so be gentle with me This is what I d like some ideas about I m 71 live alone and apart from the obvious signs of aging ( aches and pains) fairly healthy I was ' retired' from work without being prepared 3 years ago I wasn't ready The year before both my Mum and Dad died I have no siblings I went from being incredible busy and needed to nothing almost over night . I got a volunteers job two mornings a week which I enjoy but find tiring I m on my feet for 5 hours without a break I have started two web groups one for humanitarian work and one for school reunions finding people etc I still do some things for two grand children ( the other 5 live away) but they are now teens and are off out and about a lot (as it should be) I I try hard to be sociable meet friends for lunch and occasional theatre or cinema visits, my daughter that lives nearby is very good to me too BUT there are long periods where there is just me and the tv and I feel very unfulfilled and realise it's me not the lack of opportunity I have ideas but they are all in my head they don't come to fruition
Doing things on your own is so easy to not do my motivation levels are zero I make plans in my head from going places to doing things that I then tell myself oh I ll do that another day and so it goes on I know only me can sort this out but wondered if anyone else has this difficulty with motivation
I will add I don't have a car and although I come across as very bubbly and sociable I m actually very shy and diffident underneath it all I m not good at going to join a group on my own although I have managed it in the past but it seems harder and harder now, I m not expecting any magic ideas really it would just be nice to know I m not alone
Thanks for listening hope I don't come across as a miserable old bugger lol
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