My son met a girl last May who has a 5 year old , She had split from his dad when he was 2 but every other day his paternal grandparents pick him up and he see’s his dad . This is a rolling agreement and they live 100 miles away and with covid etc my husband has not met the 5y old ( I have briefly met him ) . Advice we need please now Covid restrictions are eased we arranged to pop up to our sons ( never usually a problem ) but the girl is terrified of her ex as he quizzes the son the “excuse” was they were going to court so fair enough after court( it did not go her way , less changeovers) and when things were relaxed we said will come up just for day but were told no ( actually just ignored the messages until we phoned which didn’t end well . Anyway diverting away from problem in November they announced she was expecting due August so we said we really need to meet the son properly to get to know him before our grandchild is born but the goalposts are moved everytime we try and suggest something . She seems happy for us to be involved once our grandchild is born but is it weird that we can’t get to know her son as we seem prevented every suggestion we make ( ie meet halfway in a park etc ) ? My husband says well until we meet him he nothing to do with us but I fear we wont meet him until after baby and he is already a bit mixed up after they moved in with my son he had to go upstairs in his house when the son was being picked up by the grandparents , I think he still does tbh ( they do not come in the house either its what her ex said so seems what he says goes ) . We want to include the lad but how do we go around this ( dont say facetime as already suggested this and her answer is he may tell his dad🤷♀️🤷♀️) Not really sure what to do so over to all you wise people x
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