Strokes

Elizabeth

The sun shone all around yesterday. Out of sadness has come love and comfort from family and friends. Great opportunities to see all come together from far and near. Thank you Gransnet for your continuing support.

Awful news, Elizabeth - look after yourself

So sorry to hear your sad news Elizabeth

So sorry

Thinking of you Elizabeth1, look after yourself.

A sad time, but as you say, a blessing. He had had enough and is now at rest. Best wishes for the next stage, when you will be so busy.

Brother in law passed away this morning 4.30 am. A real blessing thank you all so very much for thinking of me and giving such good advice during the initial trauma.

You are all so kind and your thoughts are much appreciated during this sad time. We all continue to wait. The nurses are brilliant, so tender and kind to all of us.

Dear Elizabeth you are in my thoughts, your BIL is very fortunate to have you looking out for him. I find it very difficult to understand his children did not rush to help n sort out his daily needs whilst in hospital. Surely this is not your entire responsibility.it sounds as if now they have come to their senses. Nothing more important than family. Hope he improoves. As I have said folk can make massive improvements following a stroke.

Elizabeth and ((hugs))

Thinking about you.

in my thoughts

Thinking of you Elizabeth

Elizabeth1, somehow I'd missed your posts of later on in the week. So much hope, then to have them dashed so suddenly. BiL will have gained so much comfort from your visits and will no doubt have known you'll always be there for him, no matter what.
Sending you love and to get you through this next wee while. xx

Sending thoughts and best wishes Elizabeth and the strength you need to get through this difficult time. Your sister would be so grateful for the love and care you have shown to your BiL.

Elizabeth and best wishes.

My thoughts are with you and your family Elizabeth

Sad news BiL had another stroke and is so very poorly. Staff are now just helping him to feel very comfortable. All ill feelings with the family have been dissolved and far away. Think of me x

Now the fun begins. BiL's adult eldest son now advises me from afar to put BiL's 14 year old wee dog into the kennels while dad is in hospital.Wee dog loves his home and gets access to the garden each day via the cat flap. (You can tell from the scene on the lawn) We pop in to give food and a daily cuddle each day.

Eldest son insists on daily hospital visits to cease as his dad is not my responsibility and he uses that word liberally. Eldest son doesn't take into account short term needs such as who washes the jammies, who takes in the daily newspaper, who wipes his forehead when he is being sick (and thats every day) when there are no nurses about etc etc etc. However now that BiL is closer to home his friends are starting to visit and provide additional support and my daily visits have already ceased.

So different thinking to where my loyalties lie. BiL's needs will change and evolve over a period of time and where would he be without basic contact with those who love him. My sister would "turn over" as they say if she heard the condescending approach from this son. I'm not on my own here as there are other in laws who will be there for there our dear BiL. And there is at the end of this rainbow.

Any advice from my friends on Gransnet will be warmly welcomed.

Hurrah BiL being transferred today to the local rehab unit.

Marelli I'm afraid BiL has no family in Scotland. Three adult children in London and one in Australia. So no real help there. I'm afraid they are not so good at recognising the daily needs of their dad even when he is in hospital. Who's going to collect his daily washing, a crushed fruit juice from the cafe and his paper? Simple pleasures for him while he can hardly sit up. Two days ago we managed to take him in a wheelchair to the cafe. The day after he said he thought he was dying that night as he felt so ill. Something to do with his stroke nurses said. Another day and where's the may I ask?

It's just as well you have the background in Social Care that you do have, Elizabeth1. So many vulnerable and frail people are turfed out of hospital long before they are ready, because of not having anyone to argue their case, after which time they fall through the net. As you say, if you hadn't just retired, goodness knows what would have happened. However, you must also not take on too much - are your brother-in-law's family able to help at all? Are they too far away?

Sorry laidback to hear your mums personality changed after her stroke. It appears brain injury can lead to all sorts of behaviour and personality changes leaving loved ones being "different" to what was previously known. I commend you for all you did for your mum.