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OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

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Luckygirl Tue 26-Mar-19 10:35:34

As many of you will know, OH has had PD for many years and is very frail. He only weighs 6.5 stone. Sadly he fell yesterday and has a displaced fracture of his femur. He is not a good candidate for surgery - but there is no choice.

It is a worry that the ward do not have the air mattress that he needs and that he has at home - we had just got on top of the skin problem. He was on a trolley for 12 hours yesterday which will not have helped.

I am waiting to hear when the op will be.

ffinnochio Tue 26-Mar-19 10:38:47

What a miserable situation for you both. I do hope your husband receives the best possible care.

midgey Tue 26-Mar-19 10:38:59

Luckygirl I am so sorry to hear this, wishing you both

gillybob Tue 26-Mar-19 10:42:41

Oh I am so sorry to hear this Lucky as if you both didn’t have enough to contend with . My late mum spent a lot of time in hospital and as a dialysis patient with bone cancer, she needed to lie still for hours on end which meant she had the most horrific bed sores . They did provide her with an air mattress ( after much nagging by me and threatening to bring her own in from home) . I’m so sorry I can’t add anything helpful but sending my very best wishes to you both and hope the operation is sooner rather than later and goes well . Life’s [email protected] sometimes . sad

jura2 Tue 26-Mar-19 10:44:45

Oh no I am so so sorry to hear. Have you spoken to the ward sister/manager about his special needs and previous bed sores, etc. Or get a special overlay for the main part of body from Red Cross. This is just so so wrong- 12 hours on trolley in his poor physical shape. My heart goes out to you and your family- it must be so painful and stressful to see he is not getting the best care. Hugs.

stella1949 Tue 26-Mar-19 10:45:51

You can hire air mattresses and other pressure-relieving devices. In your situation I'd do that - if he gets a pressure sore it will be serious . I do hope you get some news soon, op.

Charleygirl5 Tue 26-Mar-19 10:50:16

stella he is in a hospital- it is not up to Luckygirl to be hiring equipment.

EllanVannin Tue 26-Mar-19 11:02:58

Aww, poor soul. My heart goes out to you Luckygirl.x

kittylester Tue 26-Mar-19 11:10:18

Oh no, Lucky! Can you contact PALS? Can they advocate for/with you?

Wish we could help!

annsixty Tue 26-Mar-19 11:31:27

So sorry to hear that Luckygirl my own H is in hospital and on getting him onto the ward the first thing as they got him into bed was to check his back and his heels for sores.
I felt they would be taking it very seriously.
I hope he gets through the op with no complications.

Baggs Tue 26-Mar-19 11:35:52

Oh dear, lucky, that is rotten. I do hope your OH is well looked after and that the surgery does not cause further problems. All best wishes coming your way.

sodapop Tue 26-Mar-19 11:46:47

So sorry to hear about your Other Half Lucky. I hope you are able to access all the help you need and he comes through the op safely. Lots of positive thoughts and good wishes coming your way.

MawBroon Tue 26-Mar-19 11:50:37

I am so sorry to hear this,flowers
From my experience the hospital will provide an electric air mattress which monitors the amount the patient needs to have it inflated.
Won’t do any harm to remind them though.
These days bed sores and sepsis are the magic words which usually generate immediate action.

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megan123 Tue 26-Mar-19 12:20:58

So sorry to hear this Lucky flowers

notanan2 Tue 26-Mar-19 12:25:17

Sureley an air mattress would be inappropriate for an unstable fracture that needs surgery? Once it is stabalised, yes, but it sounds like it isnt at this point?

notanan2 Tue 26-Mar-19 12:31:18

Re 12 hours on a trolly, that will have "breached" targets but it is different for unstable bone stuff. The trollies can be used in x-ray etc without having to move unstable fractures on/off x ray boards. There are various reasons why trollies can be the best clinical decision, without which 12 hours is a HUGE breach which will have been flagged.

Someone should have explained the reasonings for the choices of bed/trolly/mattresses to you. Hope you get some answers

grannyqueenie Tue 26-Mar-19 12:52:51

So sorry to hear this lucky, you needed this setback like a hole in the head. I’m sure you’ll push as much as is possible to ensure all his needs are properly met. I hope they take notice of all that you’re saying sooner rather later. flowers

Luckygirl Tue 26-Mar-19 13:01:45

Everyone who was with us in the hospital yesterday was kind and helpful; and they agreed he did need an air mattress like the one he has at home - they rang round everywhere and did their absolute best, but there was not one to be had. He is now on a "50/50" mattress which they hope will serve the same function. They do seem to be taking this seriously.

I have been in action this morning. I have spoken to the PD nurse and consultant who have been up on the ward to help them sort out his very complicated drugs regime. I have also spoken to the ward leader who is absolutely on it with the need for him to have his Parks meds when he needs them rather than when they are doing a drug round.

I also spoke with the hospice consultant who had filled in his request not to have cardio-pulmonary resuscitation and she has said I must take this to the hospital and not re-discuss it with him as she thinks he is too frail to survive such an action anyway.

And my DDs are all here - but if I was to be strictly honest I am finding that quite stressful as they are all desperate to help when I really feel I need a few moment's quiet to take this all in and gather some strength - I did not get to bed till 3 am. They seem to have forgotten that I am still a functioning adult and can make a sandwich and get myself a chair for the garden! But I do appreciate their love and kindness of course. They just want to help, when there is little they can do - we just have to accept the situation and try and do our best to support him.

It is likely to be a long haul if he does bounce back from surgery and I am guessing there will be a period of rehab in a cottage hospital, after which I will finally need to think about a package of care at home.

Thank you for your good wishes.

jura2 Tue 26-Mar-19 13:06:59

So hard for you all lucky - with you in thougths and spirit - love.

MawBroon Tue 26-Mar-19 13:07:26

I have PM’d you flowers

Luckygirl Tue 26-Mar-19 13:09:45

Thanks jura - thank goodness he had his Swiss trip last year.

notanan2 Tue 26-Mar-19 13:11:54

Sounds like you are on top of everything for your DH so now dong forget to look after yourself thanks

merlotgran Tue 26-Mar-19 13:15:32

So sorry to hear this Luckygirl. Hope all goes well with the op and your DH's recovery.

kittylester Tue 26-Mar-19 13:17:00

I was just going to say the same thing. Just say you need a lie down to catch up on your rest. Take some brew and some music and gather yourself.

You know we are here if you need us! At least in spirit!!