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Anniebach Mon 19-Aug-19 21:46:12

Hi, new thread x

Doodle Mon 19-Aug-19 21:48:35

Oh annie I am so sorry to hear about your friend. What a shock. At least she has you to talk to. I imagine her son will be coming over from America straight away.

Anniebach Mon 19-Aug-19 21:56:31

Doodle, he flew over for the funeral then went home. She has no family, no in-laws. Doesn’t find mixing with people easy.

I will phone around tomorrow and see what support I can find for her.

Bathsheba Mon 19-Aug-19 22:22:26

Oh my God, Annie, what a terrible, terrible tragedy. The poor woman sad

Joce345 Mon 19-Aug-19 22:27:11

Aww Annie how sad your poor friend, she will understand where you are coming from. You can stay in touch on the phone it’s always good to talk, she will know you are there for her Annie . God bless you both

Anniebach Mon 19-Aug-19 22:31:58

Yes a terrible tragedy Bathsheba I am so worried about her.

When I say she was dependant on him I mean very dependant . I don’t want her to stop the chemotherapy but how she will go to the hospital on her own ? I have to find support for her . I insisted she sees her GP tomorrow, she promised she would.

So far I have thought of , her buying one of those emergency
pendants. I will phone Cruse, and ask my local MIND if they will contact a branch where she lives .

Any suggestions most welcome

Anniebach Mon 19-Aug-19 22:34:02

Joce I will contact her daily and hope and pray I can find support for her.

Sorry, how is everyone here x

Joce345 Tue 20-Aug-19 08:57:17

Annie if she gets in touch with her hospital they will provide transport for her chemotherapy. There is always McMillan who will do all they can to help her..

KatyK Tue 20-Aug-19 09:33:25

Sorry to hear this. Just jumping in to say that, after my DH was treated for cancer, he wanted to give something back. He found a local organisation that provided lifts for cancer patients to appointments for a minimal charge. He signed up and worked for them. There may be something similar near you.

Anniebach Tue 20-Aug-19 10:36:35

KatyK she lives in Cornwall I am in Wales. She needs someone who knows the area who can advise her on what help is there for her.

KatyK Tue 20-Aug-19 10:44:30

I see Annie. Maybe Macmillan as suggested could point her in the right direction.

Nonnie Tue 20-Aug-19 11:13:56

OOPs I started another one before I saw this. I'll try to get it taken down.

So sorry for your friend annie, DS died suddenly and without a known cause so I can understand the shock. I can also understand how you feel because of your history. Can't offer any help, just have to keep on keeping on.

Anniebach Tue 20-Aug-19 11:23:58

Thank you all x

I do think one person she can trust and who can advise her is what she needs, she has been too dependent on one person for so many years, is in shock, grieving , frightened, confused,
someone who can guide her through the help that is available

Joce345 Tue 20-Aug-19 12:10:06

Aww Annie she will need someone ASAP, bless her she won’t know which way to turn. There will be plenty where she lives to help and support her, it’s getting them in touch with her, and her with them ..

Dawn22 Tue 20-Aug-19 15:54:49

Thinking of you Nonnie and your most difficult of experiences. Take care as best you can. Dawn xx

Annie you are so kind and supportive to your dear friend and an inspiration to us all to be there for other people if we possibly can. Take care of yourself as well, as best you can and your friend as well. Thinking of you from Dawn xx

nanny2507 Tue 20-Aug-19 17:04:57

aww annie so sad. Is there a vicar/priest that can visit. even if not religious its just a shoulder to lean on?

Nonnie Tue 20-Aug-19 17:15:27

Thanks Dawn I know I'm not alone but that doesn't bring him back.

Anniebach Tue 20-Aug-19 19:01:04

Hi all and thank you x

Found a supporter ,my friend phoned and said she likes her

Now how is everyone x

Doodle Tue 20-Aug-19 20:51:21

Trying my mindful best not to worry. A bit up and down. Wish my mind would stop ruminating on problems all the time.
Glad you found someone for your friend annie. How are you?

nanny2507 Tue 20-Aug-19 21:04:43

Good evening everyone x ...mixed emotions today..I dont know how to goes...when I'm alone I am weary...tired of being me. Sick of being fat..sick of being ugly..sick of being me. When I'm with people I'm happy..i laugh..I joke..but the second they me again but yet I have no desire to be around people

Anniebach Tue 20-Aug-19 21:30:25

Doodle it is difficult to stop ruminating on problems, are they problems which need sorting out very soon ?

nanny. I will be brave and ask so please reply not with your thoughts but with facts , pretend you are one of your friends answering for you ok ?

Are you overweight? if so is the extra weight caused by physical health problems or by comfort eating ? And I do say
if x

SalsaQueen Tue 20-Aug-19 21:39:17

AnnieHow terrible for your friend. That's a dreadful way for anyone to die. I hope she gets some help. x

Nonnie Sorry to hear that your DS died suddenly. I can't imagine how awful that must be. x

Nanny are you on any antidepressants? I can empathise, as I have days like that myself, but I'm on antidepressants and they do help me. It helps me that I see my family and friends, too. I get those same feelings and thoughts that you describe, when I'm alone. Please consider seeing a doctor, though. I wrote all my "symptoms" down, passed the list to my GP, as I couldn't speak, just sat sobbing. Don't be so hard on yourself. x

Joce345 Tue 20-Aug-19 21:43:00

Well nanny I don’t for one second think you are ugly, that is a very sad word and there are few people that are truly ugly. Every one looks in the mirror.. look deeper ugly!! Do you really think you are. I am very plain and fat but not at all ugly I love and care so much..

nanny2507 Tue 20-Aug-19 21:48:07

annie yes very overweight about 4 stone...its pure greed. Coupled with zero motivation and zero willpower...salsa I'm on 120mg of duloxitine joce yes I'm ugly. I believe I'm lovely inside but not outside..but yet you are judged by your outside xx

Anniebach Tue 20-Aug-19 22:02:23

nanny thank you, x

I have suggested several times you see your GP, please do,
Salsa was right, write things down and give to your GP,

And you are not ugly , I think depressed x

Anniebach Tue 20-Aug-19 22:03:53

nanny stop thinking your are being judged, is this why you
don’t want to go out locally?

Doodle Tue 20-Aug-19 22:25:35

Hi annie. Problems are nothing I can do anything about just more difficulties for my DGS. All I can do is pray for help. I just keep going over things in my mind and hoping they are all ok. Worry about family is pretty much all I do.

Ok nanny if we’re being honest here I am no oil painting. I have a huge nose with a big bump in the middle no cheekbones to mention. A long face and if I don’t smile I look pretty unapproachable and grumpy. However, I do smile. A lot. I smile at everyone I pass on the street whatever they look like. Sometimes I am ignored, sometimes they look at me as though I’m nuts but most of the time people smile back at me.
The truth is nanny no matter what we think, most people don’t actually notice what we look like at all. Apart from friends, people we pass in the street or meet in shops probably wouldn’t remember anything about us 10 seconds later.
I think a trip to the GP might be in order too but take heart nanny, we think you’re lovely 💕

Nonnie Wed 21-Aug-19 09:32:38

nanny I think I understand, we have friends coming tomorrow and to all outward appearance I will be fine. I'll chat and smile but when they are gone I will fall apart. I am good at putting it on for others but when I don't have to I collapse into the unmotivated me.

I honestly don't think people look at other people, they are too busy worrying about how they look. I went to the shops the other day and had forgotten to brush my hair, forgotten to put in my earrings and not bothered with make up. Don't think anyone noticed or cared.

I agree with Doodle I smile at everyone I pass, I make conversation at the bus stop and even if it doesn't help me I like to think it has cheered the person I smiled at.

If you don't like your weight why not try to lose just a little bit? Sometimes if we have a lot to lose it is too big a task but if you decided to lose 1/2 stone and achieved it wouldn't you feel good? Diets are horrible things, just cut out/down one or two of the things you know you shouldn't eat. Good luck

nanny2507 Wed 21-Aug-19 17:10:06

Thanks everyone. I have decided today to try and cut down. Yes I had a piece of cake today but them only ate half of my panini. I've had no crisps and 1 small pack of sweets. Start small. I have always had an issue with my face. I am convinced I look like a man in womens clothes

SalsaQueen Wed 21-Aug-19 17:55:46

Nanny. You are overweight by 4 stone, about the same as I am. I find it hard to keep to a diet, so I cut down a bit. I still have cake, chocolate, whatever I like, but I don't go mad with it. Perhaps your medication needs changing or increasing? You are NOT ugly. You sound a caring, gentle, decent person. Be good to yourself. Look around, there are people who are nasty, unkind, mean - THEY are ugly. If you're unhappy with your looks, have your hair cut or coloured (I've had mine trimmed today), wear a nice pink lipstick, a bright-coloured top, paint your nails. I don't mean to belittle how you feel, but those things can make you feel attractive. I do all those things, and I put on my face, which I hide behind, if that makes sense. x

Dawn22 Wed 21-Aug-19 20:04:23

Doodle what you said about your good face put a smile on my face. Thank you for that. A smile is our own unique identity.
Tks D from D

Doodle Wed 21-Aug-19 21:20:01

Thanks Dawn 😊
nanny if it’s any help, you could do what I tried to lose weight. Ok I was honest about the way I look I will be honest about my weight too. I am not huge. Many would say my weight is fine but I am very out of proportion in that all my weight is from the waist down. I decided I wanted to lose a bit but I really love my food. I decided that I would still eat all the things I like but for two or three days a week I would only eat half the amount I would normally. It worked. Not straight away but after a few weeks I noticed the weight started to drop.

Anniebach Wed 21-Aug-19 21:58:57

Hi all x

Fact - beauty within always radiates out

Fact - love radiates the face

Fact - a smile affects us inside and out, we feel good when someone smiles at us and we smile back.
😀 yes ?

nanny great advice given so give us a smile x

How is everyone ?

Doodle Wed 21-Aug-19 22:02:30

Big wobble this afternoon but have settled a bit this evening (aided by a glass of red wine). How about you annie?

Anniebach Wed 21-Aug-19 22:13:57

Hi Doodle x

Was it thoughts which caused the big wobble or something else?

I feel rather apprehensive, tomorrow the physiotherapy dept
hold their weekly meeting and decide if I can have help from
them at home .

I put a request on the towns local site this morning asking for
someone to do work in my garden. Had 17 replies , now I have a problem, which do I accept!

A week next Monday my elder granddaughter will be home in
Wales, longing to see her.

SalsaQueen Wed 21-Aug-19 22:22:14

I've been a bit up and down this week. Started with a urinary tract infection last Sunday, got antibiotics on Monday.

Started new job on Tuesday - I like the hours and locality, but it's boring and there's not enough to do (could be worse).

The antibiotics have made no difference at all, so saw the GP today, who said she thinks it's now in my kidneys. Got different antibiotics. Sick of weeing (32 times and counting).

Going out with younger son for dinner tomorrow night. Eldest son and his family are away on holiday, so I've been looking after the cat, fish and guinea pigs.

Annie...good luck for tomorrow x

Anniebach Wed 21-Aug-19 22:33:43

Salsa so sorry you have health problems, hope the second batch of anti biopics work .

You must find the new job a bit flat, you loved your previous job, let’s hope things will lighten for you x

Doodle Wed 21-Aug-19 23:15:54

Just thoughts annie. I think you once accurately described it as awfulising. All my own fault but it’s so hard to control my mind. Hope you get good news about the physio x

Joce345 Wed 21-Aug-19 23:18:24

Evening all. Hope all goes well Annie
Salsa sorry your not too good hope you are better soon..
Annie I would be so excited your family nearer to you must be a lovely feeling for you..
You always have kind words for all Annie yes beauty is in the eye of the beholder so to speak...

War is ugly, guns and knifes, are ugly...

Nanny I am a good 5stone over weight, I can easily lose a stone when I am in a bad place, then just put it back on when I am ok again. I stopped worrying about what anyone else thinks. I know I am a caring loving woman.. i worry about enough as it is...

Nonnie Thu 22-Aug-19 11:43:36

Sorry friends about to arrive so no time to reply to all. Thinking of you though.

nanny just a though, look at old photos of you and see whether you were as bad as you think you are. Pretty sure you will be surprised. When I looked back at old photos I saw that I was quite pretty and said so to DH. He was surprised I didn't realise at the time! Do you know anyone who looks in the mirror and likes what they see?

nanny2507 Thu 22-Aug-19 19:00:21

thank you everyone i totally agree with what you say...its like that film shallow hal. In the film he saw the true face of people...if you were ugly inside he saw an ugly face, if you were beautiful inside he saw a beautiful face. I am a very kind person and I will help anyone and everyone. I am caring and loving too xxx x

nanny2507 Thu 22-Aug-19 19:05:49

salsa i am sorry you are poorly i hope you are better soon. annie not long until your granddaughter is near so exciting are the 17 offers of help people that require paying? iff not cant you use them all?

salsa i love having my nails done i pick really bright colours and i love glitter ha ha ha

SalsaQueen Thu 22-Aug-19 21:44:26

Thanks, all, I'm a bit better today, although not better yet, but I feel these tablets will do the trick. The job is SO boring but I'll try to find things to do. I've applied for a job I'd really enjoy (but probably won't get it) as a vet's receptionist. Fingers crossed.

Nanny I hope you feel less unhappy today. Be nice to yourself - someone told me that when we're feeling, we need to look at ourselves in a mirror and say something positive ("my eyes/lips/hair/something is pretty/attractive"). I've got long eyelashes grin

SalsaQueen Thu 22-Aug-19 21:46:21

Annie How did it go with the Physiotherapist?

Joce345 Thu 22-Aug-19 21:56:39

Annie how was your physio today ...

Evening all..

Anniebach Thu 22-Aug-19 22:12:03

Salsa lets all be positive for you and cross our fingers too.
Glad you feel a little better x

nanny get those nails painted and glittered , you are gorgeous x elder granddaughter will be home in Wales 6th Sept. x

Doodle yes awfulising, we all do it , if there an exam we will
all get A grades x

Joce I have to wait for a telephone call from the physiotherapy dept,

Nonnie Fri 23-Aug-19 11:26:57

Salsa I hope the job will get better as you learn more about it but in the meantime who knows what is on the horizon, you might get the vet job, I hope you do.

nanny, go for the nails.

annie looks like quite a bit of light at the end of your tunnel, keep focused on it.

I'm exhausted, friends came yesterday, nothing difficult but just keeping up a positive act was hard. Dil coming round tonight for a girls night in so no stress with that. I can prepare food in advance, easy food and just have to go through a contract with her.

Have a good BH weekend all.

SalsaQueen Fri 23-Aug-19 15:54:43

Hello all, the job is quite isolating, but I had a walk around the place and chatted to a few of the residents, then moved some furniture about in my office, so it filled the time. Thankfully, my infection seems to be clearing up.

Hope you all have a good evening and weekend. My local Asda was very bust today, with people buying loads of food as though there's a shortage! The shop doesn't even close for Bank Holiday smile

SalsaQueen Fri 23-Aug-19 15:55:06

very BUSY, not bust grin

Joce345 Fri 23-Aug-19 22:57:09

Good night all sleep well. Been a long hard day today 💤💤🌸

Doodle Sat 24-Aug-19 20:21:59

I’m hot 🥵. Not used to this heat but been for a walk and trying to relax now.
Up early for Church tomorrow. Sleep well all x

Anniebach Sat 24-Aug-19 21:36:25

Hi all x

Doodle I am not comfortable with hot weather x

Joce345 Sun 25-Aug-19 09:56:32

Morning all hope you are all having a cool weekend haha

SalsaQueen Sun 25-Aug-19 11:05:32

I hate this hot weather. It's good for getting all the washing dry quickly, though.

I don't much care for bank holidays - my husband doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere - we've got 2 cars, yet he's happy to sit at home, reading the newspaper or watching tv. He can go all day without talking. I'm the opposite, the solitude drives me mad. The GC are with their mother this weekend, so it's just the 2 of us (sons are both doing their own things), doing solitary things....and he wonders why I keep buying "stuff" grin

henetha Sun 25-Aug-19 11:26:00

Again, another horrible bank holiday. The black dog is visiting, it's to hot to work or sit in the garden, and anyway I think I saw a hornet. Can't go out, everywhere is crowded.
It's better to be alone, alone, than to be alone in a crowd.

nanny2507 Sun 25-Aug-19 11:50:22

hello my friends. GD here this week i love her so much. people turned up this morning to view house that we knew nothing about ! house upside down all still in PJS but hey ho let them in anyway. hope you are all well in the excessive heat xxx

Anniebach Sun 25-Aug-19 12:03:10

I feel so lost . Always surrounded by a large extended family, no one here now. No one been in my home for nearly 3 weeks.

My brothers younger son married last Friday, it was upsetting thinking about many family members being there , my sisters, nieces and nephews.

Bank holidays are difficult, seems everyone is doing something or going somewhere.

Doodle Sun 25-Aug-19 13:10:22

I think it’s an illusion annie. We always think others are off having a high old time when in fact many are at home just sitting or reading. In my apartment block today I think apart from the young girl with a baby, the rest of us are all in our own places keeping out of the sun. I realise it is not the same when you are on your own and missing your family.
Have a chat to me annie. What are you doing? Obviously I am on GN at the moment. Just finished a mammoth pile of ironing and had a bite of lunch. I have downloaded a new book called the Cuckoo’s calling which I am going to try and get into. I am doing my best to keep my mind occupied.

Anniebach Sun 25-Aug-19 13:31:57

Hi Doodle x

I don’t believe everyone is having a great bank holiday, I was thinking of my family which is now just my younger daughter in Lincolnshire and my three grandchildren, I do miss my elder daughter so much , until her illness she really was my very own sunshine.

Too hot for ironing 😀 x

Doodle Sun 25-Aug-19 14:18:12

You’re right about the ironing annie but I had left it so long it was beginning to take over 😀. Still at least it’s done now?
When are you next expecting a visit from your DGD?
Did you ever get your hand rail fitted along the side of your house? It should be a really warm evening tonight. Could you venture into the garden a bit do you think?

Anniebach Sun 25-Aug-19 14:44:30

No hand rail yet Doodle, couldn’t walk out anyway, knee is badly twisted so waiting to see consultant.

Hope I will accepted by the physiotherapy dept , want advice on the muscle wastage

Younger granddaughter coming tomorrow hopefully, she has gone away for the weekend so depends if she comes home today or as the weather is so nice tomorrow

For a while I have been having a sleep in the afternoon, not a good habit x

Joce345 Sun 25-Aug-19 15:22:32

Hi Annie Doodle, it is very hot too hot to iron Doodle. Aww Annie is horrible that you are in so much pain and unfair you have to put up with it.. I have been at hospital with my husband he’s cut a nice chunk out of his finger, he only has 3 fingers on that hand and had to cut it so now he’s redundant till it get better.

Doodle Sun 25-Aug-19 16:58:51

joce sorry to hear about your DH. Hope it’s not too bad.
annie sorry I didn’t think about your knee when I posted about going out in the garden. Hope the physio gets sorted soon.

Joce345 Sun 25-Aug-19 18:19:16

Doodle thank you. sure he will get better soon, just a bit painful when you first do something like that, is throbbing a bit today but he had to go back to get a different dressing on this morning. They put something on it, that was only to be on for 24 hours to stop the bleeding.. he had his had crushed a few year since so his skin is very thin on that hand which of course do not help with the pain or bleeding, it has stop now so pleased about that..

Doodle Sun 25-Aug-19 20:54:52

I’ve had a strange weekend. I have been very concerned about my DGS for a while and my anxieties have been getting the better of me. I have been trying with mindfulness to cope and also with prayers to lay all my troubles with God and trust in him. Unfortunately, I am weak and as the weekend approached my worries got worse and hard as I tried I couldn’t keep them away. I have concentrated on trying to keep occupied but it has been difficult. 2 strange things have happened. Firstly one son found out something by accident which he told me on Friday which lifted my spirits. Today I have been worried again and out of the blue my other son texted some good news to lift me again. I can’t help but think that God heard my desperation and helped.
You were all in my prayers today as always. Who knows what can happen. Sleep well all x

Dawn22 Sun 25-Aug-19 21:45:04

I am really thinking of you as l read your earlier posts. Not an easy situation and you are so brave and l do understand. You are not alone as we are here for you virtually and in thoughts. Sending as many positive thoughts to you that l possibly can.

I always try and have some little thing to look forward to and concentrate on that. But no it is not easy for you even with saying all the above. But somehow we get there.

Dawn 👍👍 xx 🎶🎶

Dawn22 Sun 25-Aug-19 21:48:01

Hope everyone gets a good night's sleep tonight and heals a little bit from the ailments that life sends us all.
Dawn xx

Anniebach Sun 25-Aug-19 21:51:47

Joce so sorry , your poor husband x

Doodle he works in mysterious ways x

Dawn I am ok , just a wobble this morning x

How is everyone coping ? X

Dawn22 Sun 25-Aug-19 21:57:49

Thanks Doodle for your lovely last message.
Sleep well tonight too.
Bella Dawn (my new name; am going to go with it.)

Dawn22 Sun 25-Aug-19 22:01:13

Good to hear Annie. I know we all have wobbles but great when we can get back on track.
Bella Dawn xx

Anniebach Sun 25-Aug-19 22:17:56

Love the name Bella Dawn x

Anniebach Sun 25-Aug-19 22:22:59

Something lovely today. I was missing my darling elder daughter, felt so alone. Messaged my younger granddaughter
to tell her the house plants need dividing, think there will be ten more !

She replied ‘ 10, where are we going to put 10 ? It was ‘we’ which made me so happy. I wasn’t really alone .

Doodle Sun 25-Aug-19 23:05:08

That’s nice annie. It’s amazing how a simple word can cheer us up. x

Nonnie Mon 26-Aug-19 11:07:43

Doodle I really admire people who can simply hand it all over to the Lord, I try and fail miserably!

annie DS, who knows about these things, says that muscle wastage starts after a week! We are all doomed grin Sorry about the flippancy, I can only imagine how that must feel.

I don't mind the heat so count myself lucky but it does effect my low blood pressure and I have to be careful not to fall down.

Why, when I have so much good in my life, do I feel so tired and down so much? Most of you seem to have more to cope with than me, I just have one big thing which is really stressful, so why can't I come out of this?

Anniebach Mon 26-Aug-19 12:18:20

Hi all x

Doodle yes a simple word, I have lived alone for 25 years so use to ‘i’ , x

nonnie many hand over to the Lord and then take it back, I have. I have been troubled, hand it over but in a very short
time start being troubled about the same thing so really taken it back.

One big thing which is stressful? If it’s one or several things
it’s stressful x

Doodle Mon 26-Aug-19 20:59:52

nonnie I try and fail too. I wish my faith was stronger.

Oh annie you sound like me. Some days I am so strong but then I start to have a wobble again. Good job the Lord is with us whatever, yesterday, today and tomorrow, always there x

Anniebach Mon 26-Aug-19 21:54:30

nonnie if muscle wastage starts after a week mine are very weak after nearly two years of not going out walking. My legs
wobble when I stand to make a mug of tea.

Doodle do you use ‘The Jesus Pray’ ? I use it as an arrow prayer and when in prayer.

Very disappointed, younger granddaughter didn’t come today , she will come tomorrow, she has an apartment viewing in Cardiff, I hope they get this one.

I have an eye stye , painful.

Doodle Mon 26-Aug-19 22:23:10

annie sorry your DGD couldn’t make it today, hopefully tomorrow.
Yes annie also I pray the “Do not be anxious about anything” prayer and start each day with the Lord’s Prayer and Thank you for this day and the promise of your presence with me.
Sleep well all. God watch over you x

Anniebach Mon 26-Aug-19 22:24:46

You too Doodle

Anniebach Tue 27-Aug-19 21:12:01

Hi all x

Hope the day went well for all.

I have a very swollen eye , scratched the lower lid, !

Had phone call from physio dept, have appointment tomorrow at home to assess my needs.

Anniebach Tue 27-Aug-19 21:13:16

And best part of the day? Younger granddaughter came 😀

Joce345 Tue 27-Aug-19 21:40:30

Hi all..
Annie so pleased your granddaughter came sure she cheered you up.. styles are very painful you have my sympathy, Annie and they make me feel ill as well don’t know about you hope you are alright with it ...
simple words mean so much, they can make a world of difference...
night all sleep well

Joce345 Tue 27-Aug-19 21:41:14


Doodle Tue 27-Aug-19 21:49:24

Good news on two counts annie 😊

Nonnie Wed 28-Aug-19 12:09:04

Mixed news annie

I am a very poor Christian, constantly failing but I do pray for you all.

Very tired again today.

Anniebach Wed 28-Aug-19 12:18:43

Hi all x

Joce not a stye, I scratched my lower eyelid and have an infection.

nonnie there has only been one perfect Christian x

I am apprehensive about the appointment today, fingers crossed it will be helpful.

How about us posting one positive thing every day ? Even on troubled days ?

Dawn22 Wed 28-Aug-19 14:41:45

A nice little prayer and l think it is said with children-

God our father l come to say Thank you for your love today. Thank you for my family And all the things you give to me. Guard me in the dark of night and in the morning send your light.

It all helps.
Take care. Dawn

Dawn22 Wed 28-Aug-19 14:48:58

Thank you Doodle. I looked up that Do not be anxious about anything prayer and as you say it covers much and goes to the heart of the matter.
It all helps even just to say it.
Dawn x

Joce345 Wed 28-Aug-19 17:50:05

I kissed my DH this morning he was making our cup of tea, now that’s a positive, his face was a picture haha, I don’t usually speak till I have been up 2hours
Hope every one has had a good day..
how did you get on today Annie hope all went well for you..

Nonnie Thu 29-Aug-19 10:04:36

annie I have been posting positives for a long time but some days can't think of any. I very actively look for them all the time because common sense says it will help but then it doesn't! Thought I had one yesterday, called DH to come and look at a beautiful butterfly on the windowsill. He came and told me he had already seen it and that it was dead. Made me so sad.

How was your appointment annie?

Joce345 Thu 29-Aug-19 17:16:26

Annie hope you are ok and it wasn’t too bad yesterday for you 🌸

SalsaQueen Thu 29-Aug-19 20:42:48

Annie How did it go with the Physio assessment? Glad you saw your granddaughter. Have you got some ointment for your eye?

Nanny How is the new cat settling in?

I'm feeling a bit more settled in my new job (though I certainly don't think I will be there until I retire in 6 years). My bladder is still a problem, so I'm going to ring the GP again tomorrow and see if I can be referred to a Urologist. Apart from that, it was a good day today.

Anniebach Thu 29-Aug-19 22:22:46

Hi all x

nonnieyes you do post positives so I suggested we all do the same . Sorry about the butterfly x

Joce hope your husband was pleased with your positive 😀x

Salsa it’s good you are settling in your new job, another may come along which will exactly what you would like more x

Didn’t nanny say she had her granddaughter staying this week ?

My assessment yesterday was a great disappointment, felt down in the dumps after it.

Had therapy this morning followed by an appointment with a chap from MIND.

So tired slept hour and half this afternoon. Can’t get anything
to treat my eye, pharmacist said I have to see an optician or a
GP , can’t expect a house visit for an eyelid infection. Will continue bathing it.
Elder granddaughter faced timed this evening, they are moving from Cornwall next weekend. She has to come up Wednesday evening for an interview in Cardiff Thursday.

My positive? 28 July I ordered and paid the council for a garden wheelie bin, delivery in 8 days, after many phone calls
it arrived yesterday ! A month .

Dawn22 Thu 29-Aug-19 22:44:42

Hi Annie
I have great success for anything to do with an eyelid infection by using a cold tea bag gently but firmly if you know what I mean pressed into the eye. I can promise you that it will do no harm and if nothing else will soothe the whole area and it is the best cure of all for a sty and any other infection. It is an old and entirely natural cure. Teabag may leave a little stain on the skin but with warm wet cotton wool it will gently come off.
It is so soothing Annie but it is very understandable that you might rather leave it as it is until seen by somebody.
I understand how bothersome these things are.
Dawn xx

Doodle Thu 29-Aug-19 23:19:49

annie sorry your assessment was a let down. Are they not going to give you any help.
I may not have mentioned it before but I do find you have a lovely way of saying things that get to the heart of things. Your comment above about there only being one perfect Christian is so true. We can only try our best.
Hope the eye infection improves.
Sleep well all x

Joce345 Fri 30-Aug-19 16:01:32

Hope you are all well..

Annie sorry you were so let down.. I agree with Dawn Annie tea bags are good and soothing..

my positive for today, I have done some work on my dolls house that’s needed doing for a long time 😊

SalsaQueen Fri 30-Aug-19 16:43:06

Annie aren't the Physio department going to help? I hope your eye is a bit better than it was. Have you got some ointment or drops?

Work is going on alright - I've been getting to know more people, so that's been good. The HR department, though, has got my surname wrong, so I haven't been able to get onto the laptop grin. So long as the wages department has got it right.....

Joce345 Fri 30-Aug-19 22:45:31

Night all hope everyone has a good nights rest... 🌸

Dawn22 Sat 31-Aug-19 08:47:10

I came across this quote and l thought it was a good one.

"Accept that you may feel sad about certain things so that you won't feel depressed about everything. "

In other words if we just try and accept the things that we are sad about and try then and find true joy in the things that we like and make us happy.

Dawn x

Nonnie Sat 31-Aug-19 11:08:48

Salsa don't hold your breath, HR gives the info to payroll!!! Glad it is improving. It is always easier to get a job when you are already in one so you can take you time to find the right thing.

Annie my positive is that your GD will soon be near you.

Dawn a good quote. I have to remind myself that now I do feel things, when I was much more ill I felt nothing at all, good or bad. My consultant said that if I won the lottery it would have no effect on me at all. Sad to say my sister died while I was in hospital and I wasn't even well enough to go to her funeral. At least I have improved from that black time.

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