I have a mother of 93 years. Until very recently, all my efforts to get her to eat a proper diet have been rebuffed. She has lived on squash, toast, jam sandwiches, and cuppa soup. Whatever I said or did made absolutely not one jot of difference. Every Sunday we used to bring her here for roast dinner in the winter, barbecue in the summer. On Saturday we brought her for sandwiches and cake. Then she ate well, often having seconds. The simple truth is she couldn’t be bothered to make a decent sandwich or cook a little meal, even though she was capable of doing so. Since she fell and also contracted a very mild dose of Covid, she has had to have carers in. She had resisted carers before because she thought my husband and I should be her carers. Now we order her shopping and the carers prepare her ready meals and feed her properly, and she is doing really well. She’s always been a stubborn woman and she was determined she wasn’t having carers because we could do it. Our next difficulty will come when after six weeks she has to start to pay for her carers. She has enough money and payment will not be a problem for her but she hates spending a penny if a halfpenny will do.
Some of you may be aware that I was hospitalised with Covid myself and I was very ill. I’m at home now but cannot do anything to help mum. We are not allowed in her sheltered apartment building because we both have had Covid, and in any case, I’m far from well enough to even leave my bedroom, never mind look after mum like I used to. Everything has changed, but I’m not sure if she really has taken it on board.
Really I just wanted to comment on the diet for the elderly. My mother is extremely elderly but also extremely stubborn. In some perverse way, her fall, her contracting mild Covid, and our own illness, contracted from her, has brought about a change that has been overdue for at least a year or longer.