Hi. I'm new to the site but decided to join whilst I hunted for someone out their they may understand how I feel right now. Sometimes just writing about and sharing anguish helps.
My hubby and I decided this would be the year moved home. Our dream was to find that special place where we could spend our highlight years.
Our plans were delayed due to the on going horrors of the pandemic but as soon as lockdown was lifted we decided to plough on with the promise we had made to ourselves.
We found a buyer within days. Wonderful. It felt as if we really had made the right decision and our hopes might not be in vein.
After just three weeks we found our dream home. The location was perfect. The house was the right size and lay out. We fell in love instantly.
Having been through one bidding war a week earlier we jumped in with an offer of the full asking price. The vendor, during viewing, had voiced the fact that he would need time to find just the right house to move onto. He had been ill and needed to move as the garden had become a chore rather than a jou.
We agreed that we were more than happy to wait for him to make his choice, even move into rental if necessary.
All appeared to be going well when they said yes to our offer.
When we heard Wednesday evening that he had had found somewhere and his offer had been accepted we were over the moon.
Thursday morning we heard he had changed his mind. They had decided not to move at all. They couldn't find anything that compared to their existing home.
The agent told me that they had seemed excited themselves just 24 hours earlier and was surprised at the sudden U-turn.
We are devastated. I've cried buckets and feel so depressed.
Friends and family repeat " you'll find something else" but that doesn't help. In fact it has the opposite effect despite the sentiment behind it.
I know I'll just compare everything we now see to that one house. It was a gem of a location, at a price we could afford, everything we had dreamed of.
We had offered him plenty of time to find what he was looking for but after just week he'd given up of finding what he was looking for.
I can't get past the fact we have lost it. Even more I can't get past the fact that someone can market their home without commiting to the idea. If you aren't sure that you want or need to move, why advertise it? It's cruel. It's heartless and selfish. Research the market if you need to...go out there and see what's available before you make your decision. I just don't get that someone can be so inconsiderate. Moving is a big decision. It should be thoroughly thought through before the decision is made.
I'm sorry. To some of you it will seem like I'm expecting too much, being over emotional. But I can't help how I feel.
Thank you for reading. Like I say. It kinda helps to share.
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