Spending money on yourself - easy or hard?

I have to spend a lot on my shoes/ boots but try to wait until there are offers.
Still having trouble too, MissAdventure

I'm a notorious skinflint.
I did buy some secondhand clarks shoes back in the summer, because I was having trouble walking i still am, so that was a waste of money

I always think it’s a bit sad when someone comes into my SiLs gift shop and says, “Oh that’s lovely. Who can I give it to?”

I think, “Enjoy it yourself ?”

I’ve spent my retirement lump sum on “experiences”. I decided I would see as much of the world as I could. The “magic” names. Kathmandu, Patagonia, Samarkand Timbuktu……

I don’t regret a penny spent on travelling just for me?

I hope grannyactivist’s liquorice gives her the same pleasure.

Blondiescot

I also find it very hard. It's the same when I get expensive presents, especially perfume or really nice skincare/body care sets - I end up not using them because I feel they're 'too good'. Stupid, I know.

I've read many tales of the sadness of people who clear the homes of the deceased when they come across unused, expensive gifts that have never been used by the recipient. USE YOUR STUFF! enjoy it just as the giver intended you to!

GagaJo

I find it very hard. I've always been this way inclined but since I work from home I have no need for new work clothes, have enough everyday clothes. I don't wear much jewellery anymore and I'm now very focused on not buying anything plastic or synthetic.

If you have no material wants or needs, what DO you buy?

Experiences ! Hence me deciding to go to Italy to avoid Christmas in UK! Bloody Omicron…..

I find it easy to spend small amounts on myself - I could buy a jumper from Sansbury's without a thought but DH tells me to buy more expensive things for my self and less frequently. He just persuaded me to buy a velvet top for almost £100 - it's lovely but I will keep it for best!!!!

I can spend a fortune on stuff for the house.

Your advent calendar sounds fab ga.

I have always been told off for being extravagant family and a few friends. I do it while I can, when I can’t afford it I will stop. I would rather treat them whilst alive than leave money in my will. However I find it hard to spend money on my house and myself, but will spend what I can on travel.
I didn’t realise that you could pay £50 on liquorice I will investigate as I know someone that loves it.
I would never spend more than I have.

I also find it very hard. It's the same when I get expensive presents, especially perfume or really nice skincare/body care sets - I end up not using them because I feel they're 'too good'. Stupid, I know.

I find it very hard. I've always been this way inclined but since I work from home I have no need for new work clothes, have enough everyday clothes. I don't wear much jewellery anymore and I'm now very focused on not buying anything plastic or synthetic.

If you have no material wants or needs, what DO you buy?

I find it extremely easy but I don't want for much nowadays. However, GA, I cannot tell you the pleasure you have given me by treating yourself at last. Thank you and WELL DONE!

My dad (who was a difficult man to know and live with) was very mean when it came to spending money on himself or others. He was a man who knew the cost of everything and the value of nothing. When he died we cleared out his house everything was worn, threadbare and/or the cheapest thing available. You could see through his pillowcases but he died with loads of money in the bank and never enjoyed it. It was like he didn't think he was worth nice stuff.

It changed my mind about spending. I'd been bought up to be ultra frugal, but when I saw how my dad was living something snapped in me and I thought why shouldn't I have nice things? I saw it might be linked to low self esteem = I don't deserve good things. Now I buy what I like. I live within my means of course, but I don't intend to die with a lot of money in the bank. I am generous with my charity donations and don't have children or anyone depending on me. Whilst I don't spend just for the sake of it I'm going to bloody well enjoy myself while I'm here.

I hope that you enjoy every mouthful of the licorice grannyactivist.

I always buy (fairly) expensive skincare ,my reasoning is my OH has to look at my face so I'm spending it for him.Apart from that I am very low reluctant to spend on me but very good at spending on my children and grandchildren and I'm sure my OH's large collection of whisky/whiskey came via my bank account.Its round to go around my granny used to say ,you cant take it with you when you die .

I find it hard to spend on myself. I think it is because I had many years of having to find money to look after my children so I rarely had money left over for me.
I think that is ingrained now and even though all my money is for my own needs I still feel a bit wrong for spending on luxuries.

I find it very easy! And I give to charity.