Unfortunately I have been estranged from my Mother for a number of years. She has just been in contact saying that she isn’t ill but is planning to give a power of attorney (both financial and health) to my brother. She hasn’t even retired and has only had a cursory conversation with my brother who seems to think that this is a reasonable planning ahead.
I am worried that she is about to make her entirely at my brother’s decisions. I don’t doubt his care, but I can’t get my head around why any physically and mentally capable person would effectively turn themselves into a dependent.
I would love to have your view on what could be motivating this before I speak with her. Any advice on a conversation would be welcome; I had planned on trying to be exploratory, asking how this has come about, if her other friends have done this, checking that she (I - running to learn) understand the immediate consequences.
Thank you in advance, this has really thrown me and despite the lack of contact I still care for her and desperately want to help her.
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