I was born in 1940 and grew up living with my gran, mum and dad, and uncle and aunt. I don't ever remember being alone. The neighbours always seemed to be popping in and out. We played in the street. Piano lessons were just down the road.

With the passage of time, the rhythm of life changed. People moved away, newcomers arrived and large fences appeared along with a feeling of isolation. Today the fences, if anything, seem more intimidating, keeping people in and others out.

In the last decade I have noticed a shifting of attitudes towards those who are older. It sometimes seems as though we are invisible. I remember moving aside on the pavement to allow my elders to pass, but this rarely happens now. Why are we invisible? I'm still tall, although I have shrunk a bit. Is it a lack of respect? Are young people more self-absorbed, focusing solely on technology? Is there is no room for other people in the equation?

Loneliness doesn’t necessarily come with age, but when we talk about it we do tend to think of the elderly. To a certain extent, there is a correlation between loneliness and age in that getting out and about is harder and there is always that inner voice that says, “I can't be bothered to go. I'll go next time”.

When the day finally comes when the car must go, that will seem like the final straw. We rely heavily on friends if they are still mobile (and local organisations that are able to lend a hand), but our independence will undoubtedly waver. As long as I'm mobile I can take some responsibility to get out, but I don't yet care to think of the time when I can't drive.

Of course, you have to make an effort in the first instance to create change. Connect with other people, talk and listen. For those of us who are lonely, these can be daunting steps indeed. But for those out there who are not, you can really help make a difference.

Wendy was born in Southampton and has since moved to Chandlers Ford with Lou, her Red Setter, to be closer to her daughter. She started her blog, Chandlers Ford Connect, last year to help those who may be feeling lonely find friendship and support locally. As she’s discovered, a friendly voice online or at the end of the phone is priceless.