Be kind

With you 100% on this one, Jo61. Many years ago, at a Tai Chi class, the teacher mentioned that a step back can be as effective as reaction. Just pause and think.

Although I totally agree with your post and the sentiment it doesn’t happen in the outside world and it won’t happen here either, there will be disagreements and opposite opinions and because the world is running on divided lines there will be strong feelings and high emotions and they will be expressed

I think what we should expect is respect for others opinions, but even a saint would sometimes fall off the wagon when thinking passionately about something we care about

My advice would be stay away from the political and more divisive titles most titles will give away that there will be strong feelings in them so don’t read them
I remember once sitting near a very lovely girl at work who said she never listened to any news programmes as they were too sad so consequently she lived in a little lovely bubble, she used to wear pink fluffy slippers under her desk at work and have balloons around her desk and dozens of photos of her wedding, but she wasn’t living in the real world (I think much happier yes) but not a life I could admire as she didn’t want to know anything about others troubles she shut her ears to people starving and wars and bad treatment because it would make ‘her’ unhappy

I totally agree let’s all be kind in our disagreements if we can but don’t expect utopia on this forum it’s not that for sure

Welcome and I hope you stay and chat Jo61 but pick your threads

I’m also with you on this Jo61. I’m too nervous to post sometimes. I know we all have different opinions, and can get very defensive of those opinions, but you’re right......be kind.

Here here

I agree I’ve posted on here and have had some not very nice replies. I don’t get in involved in a slanging match I just ignore them and read the more helpful replies . There are always people ready to judge but they don’t know the full circumstances. If you can’t say anything nice don’t bother to comment I believe some people like to try and wind people up so I don’t rise to the bait

Thanks bluebells, yes you're right, the thread was about saving plans for grandchildren so was caught out actually!! Haha x

I agree, just because you disagree with someone, doesn’t mean you can’t be kind.

But I sometimes find myself wondering if some people are for real, and how they ever get through life with their self pity, and failure to ever see they are ever at fault.

It’s a strange situation, because you would be unlikely to ever meet half the people you’re chatting with, and if you did meet them, you probably wouldn’t like them, or they you.

I think it was Thumpers mom who said that and I am with you and her 100%.
People these days seem to look for the bad and not the good in others very sad.

Haha that's right, I loved watching it when my girls were young.
Well we can use constructive comments without being destructive!! On that note I'm off to work. Thanks for all your comments

jo61 Just a word of caution.
it’s not really a good idea to join a forum and start lecturing the existing members on how to behave.
You’ll be instantly marked out as one of the dreaded ‘thread police’.
In fact most posters on Gransnet are kind people and don’t need you to tell them how to phrase their posts.

I agree with janeinsworth . In fact I saw the thread in question, and saw it as a difference of opinion, nothing nasty or unkind at all.

Suc h a goodmessage jo61 I agree completely. I just want to see help and encouragement on here.

Maybe I am another one of the Thread Police, but why is your post under "Meet Ups/ Where are You?"
I am nice in real life!

I did wonder that too Auntieflo

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Thanks bluebells, yes you're right, the thread was about saving plans for grandchildren so was caught out actually!! Haha x

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While not disagreeing with the sentiment, why is this on “Savings accounts ” and “Meet-ups” ?

To be absolutely honest I had forgotten that I took part in that thread and having checked it out I plead guilty to posting unkindly.
I am seriously thinking of leaving GN, I feel I am far too old and far too sensitive to deal with certain new posters who don’t want to just state their views without unkindness or sarcasm.

I don't mind the blatant opinionated people, it's the passive aggressive double meaning people that irk me with their comments that you are mad if you take it the "wrong way"

No way * annsixty* - don’t even think about it. You are not unkind and nor are you too old or too anything else!

Please don't leave ann you play a valuable part on these forums.

I tend to back off from threads where people are voicing strong opinions, being the coward that I am, but I do enjoy the gentle threads like Good Morning and Soop's Kitchen.

There is something for everyone on here, you just have to find your niche.

I agree with MawB. Don't leave annsixty!
Every now and again a new poster comes on and says we should all be nice. This is usually met with 'we're not Pollyanna' type responses. The forum is for all and not everyone is nice in real life nor can everyone be expected to be in digital life. Some people have strong feelings about certain topics. Just avoid the politics threads and you should be OK.

Annsixty please do not leave GN, you have been a very good virtual friend to me and lots of others

I have sometimes joined in on threads but confess I steer clear of things that might be controversial because of the unkind responses I have read. I feel we are all entitled to our point of view and as long as stating it politely and kindly, entitled to share it without having to worry that it might upset or offend.

Another one saying do not leave Annsixty you are a valuable and trusted member here

Totally agree. People tend to forget the things they are teaching their children