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Hands up, how many of us have an unplanned pregnancy?

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Iam64 Wed 28-Oct-20 17:55:31

The FSM debate has led to many poster saying no one should have children they "can't afford". That contraception is effective and easily available so no excuses.

I have one child who someone arrived despite using what were said to be effective contraception. I had not long returned to work after maternity leave. We could almost pay the mortgage and child care costs, before the arrival of this surprise baby. This unplanned pregnancy was a shock but we were lucky, we managed and all was well. I don't want to cause distress to others if your unplanned pregnancy was more difficult than mine.
I wonder how many of us could say I too am Spartacus (or whatever the female equivalent name is)

Iam64 Wed 28-Oct-20 17:56:14

sorry I should have reread more carefully - of course I have one child who 'somehow' arrived. Not someone!

Ilovecheese Wed 28-Oct-20 17:57:42

I had a little surprise as well. I am so glad that I did. Can't imagine life without her.

Oopsadaisy4 Wed 28-Oct-20 18:04:16

First one was unplanned but definitely not unwanted.

Astral Wed 28-Oct-20 18:06:26

One with a condom accident and 2 on the pill. I didn't know that having IBS might stop the pill from working and apparently some research suggests it doesn't but it does!

Astral Wed 28-Oct-20 18:07:02

Happy accidents of course

phoenix Wed 28-Oct-20 18:15:49

I'm Spartacus!

kittylester Wed 28-Oct-20 18:17:37

We have 5 children - one was actually planned. We had planned to have a big family luckily.

trisher Wed 28-Oct-20 18:17:46

I'm Spartacus!

geekesse Wed 28-Oct-20 18:19:33

I thought my youngest (of 5) was a tummy bug that I couldn’t shake off. I’ve always thought of him as ‘buy four, get one free’.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 28-Oct-20 18:20:08

I to am sparticus!

tanith Wed 28-Oct-20 18:20:27

I’m Spartacus!

GrannyGravy13 Wed 28-Oct-20 18:20:36

Flip.....*spartacus

suziewoozie Wed 28-Oct-20 18:21:13

I am Spartacus.

crazyH Wed 28-Oct-20 18:24:57

My third was an accident, but the sweetest of accidents.❤️

Iam64 Wed 28-Oct-20 18:32:32

My third was an accident - now 34 with two gorgeous children, the first one a Big Surprise/Shock and equally adorable.

sukie Wed 28-Oct-20 18:35:16

I am Spartacus. I've long believed that most of the people in the world were not planned, so to speak.

MamaCaz Wed 28-Oct-20 18:37:52

I still don't know how my second happened!

Lavazza1st Wed 28-Oct-20 18:41:25

Well, not currently but I have had in my younger days! 😁

Granny23 Wed 28-Oct-20 18:42:06

Our first was planned and conceived at the 1st attempt. Our 2nd ditto but lost in a horrific miscarriage at 4 months. DH who was with me during the mis was adamant that there would be no more so back on the pill. Fortunately, like Astral I did not realise that the tummy bug I had just recovered from would nullify the protection of the Pill!! Result? My now 47 year old wonderful 2nd Daughter and I suppose also the now 13 year old DGD she gave me. Would not be without either of them.

Lucca Wed 28-Oct-20 18:48:54

Would it be Spartaca?

Auntieflo Wed 28-Oct-20 18:52:33

We have an "Autumn Crocus" as he was known.
The most lovely of unplanned surprises, long after the first two.

nanaK54 Wed 28-Oct-20 18:53:48

Oh yes!

Galaxy Wed 28-Oct-20 18:55:11

I didnt but I have absolutely no idea how I got away with it in my early twenties. grin

M0nica Wed 28-Oct-20 18:57:08

Sorry, no. both were planned and we had no 'accidents' at all.