This question was prompted by a response on another thread and also because husband and I are in the process of making wills.
When my mother died she had paid and planned her funeral down to the last detail. This was very comforting for me because all I had to do was to contact the funeral director. At the time I thought this was a really good idea but some other members of the family and friends did not agree. They wanted to make changes to the plans but being the person responsible for carrying out my mother wishes I kept to the plan.
However I have since had time to reflect on the questions surrounding a funeral. Primarily who is the funeral for? I think it is for the people who are grieving and being involved in making the arrangements encompases their grief. Also if I make a funeral plan it feels as if I am controlling even after death. However as I said I did find my mothers plan a relief and comforting.
My dilema is do I plan and save my family the stress of arrangeing a funeral or do I allow them to do what they think is most appropriate for them.
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