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Hypothetical Question

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ninathenana Sat 30-Aug-14 08:25:34

You are driving along with young children in the car. You come across an accident moments after it happened. One of the vehicles is driven by a friend of yours. Bearing in mind the accident is on a busy roundabout in town. Do you .....
a) drive on
b) leave your car in a safe place in your full view with children inside to go and check your friend.
c) take the children out of the car and go and check your friend.

Joelsnan Sat 30-Aug-14 08:35:26


thatbags Sat 30-Aug-14 08:37:48

If it's just a bump, not needing emergency services, I'd drive on and get in touch with friend later.

My behaviour would prob be different if it was a serious accident needing emergency services.

kittylester Sat 30-Aug-14 08:39:28

What bags said!

ninathenana Sat 30-Aug-14 10:02:44

One vehicle was un drivable. Emergency services were needed but no body was taken to hospital.
My friend did 'b' and was seen, she's now in trouble with her DiL sad I think I would have done 'b' unless it had been a minor bump.

Nonu Sat 30-Aug-14 10:38:38

May I ask NINA , why you ask ?

glammanana Sat 30-Aug-14 10:43:08

I think I would go down the B route as long as the children where as you say in full view and they where of an age that they where secure in their car seats.

ninathenana Sat 30-Aug-14 10:57:05

Nonu see my 10.02 post smile

Nonu Sat 30-Aug-14 11:16:41

Righty Ho,seen it now !

suebailey1 Sat 30-Aug-14 11:40:28

yep B

thatbags Sat 30-Aug-14 11:48:11

Since the kids are fine the DiL needs to calm down. Life is not risk free. The 'risk' in this instance was very small.

GrannyTwice Sat 30-Aug-14 12:26:17

Also demonstrates a good life lesson to children - caring for others

ninathenana Sat 30-Aug-14 12:29:55

I like your take on it GrannyTwice smile

Greenfinch Sat 30-Aug-14 12:47:03

I would probably do a .

I would have to put the children first and if it was on a busy roundabout, there will be plenty of other folk to help. I would probably stop in a quiet place and phone DH or someone in her family. I would never leave the children unattended. I'm with her DiL.

HollyDaze Sat 30-Aug-14 13:04:20

I would never leave the children unattended.

Neither would I - 5 minutes can seem like an hour to young children and if they got out of the car to see what was taking you so long, well, who knows what could happen. There's a clip on the internet showing rubberneckers crashing into the police car that had stopped to issue a ticket to a driver because they were more interested in what was going on than watching where they were going. I certainly wouldn't have taken the children to the accident site.

Your friend should have driven to a place she can pull over and dial 999 then call her friend later to make sure she is okay. The safety of the children would have to come first.

Aka Sat 30-Aug-14 13:08:32

Not sure what I'd have done under the circumstances. It would depend on so many factors such as how close I could safely park, the age of the children, the seriousness of the crash, how many other people were around.


jinglbellsfrocks Sat 30-Aug-14 13:57:14

The dil is being completely unrealistic. And selfcentred.

Galen Sat 30-Aug-14 14:26:34

Agree with jinghmm

thatbags Sat 30-Aug-14 14:52:07

Leaving children within sight is not leaving them unattended.

thatbags Sat 30-Aug-14 14:53:13

A "safe place" is not a crash site.

thatbags Sat 30-Aug-14 14:54:48

Are the children not safe in their seats (strapped in) and the car locked?

I mentioned well aired earlier.

thatbags Sat 30-Aug-14 15:12:56

Children, even young ones, do not need all one's attention all the time.

thatbags Sat 30-Aug-14 15:13:34

Beginning to wonder how mine survived hmm

GrannyTwice Sat 30-Aug-14 15:18:59

Hello jings - have you been away?

kittylester Sat 30-Aug-14 15:21:06

I'm still agreeing with bags