Good or bad news :/

My youngest daughter fell pregnant by accident when she was 19. Like all mothers I wanted her to have a comfortable life with all the experiences and opportunities that I didn't have.

We discussed abortion for all of 10 seconds. It was her decision. I would have gone along with whatever she decided. But at the end of the day a baby is a gift. Sorry I know that's soppy but it's how I feel about it. I struggled to bring up my girls but I never regretted having them and she's never regretted having her daughter.

Times have changed. It's perfectly possible for a woman to have a career and a baby these days.

Might it be better to wait and see if she is pregnant or not? If she took the morning after pill, she may still feel pregnant but isn't. I think you are trying to cross bridges before you come to them. Wait and see whether or not it is confirmed and then your daughter will be able to discuss the reality of the situation rather than the fear of what might be.

Perhaps you could go an see a qualified professional to help you and your daughter come to the best decision for you both.

I became a nan at 50. I was horrified for a while when my daughter told me she was pregnant (but pleased for DD and SIL obviously). I thought 'me a grandmother, oh no I can't bear it'. However, it is wonderful. GD is 14 now and I am still young enough to have fun with her.

Oh dear Saphire I can almost feel your pain. I was in a similar position 19 years ago. I am afraid it's your daughter who will make all the decisions. That's partly why it's such a hard burden to carry. To all intents and purpose it's out of your control but you will end up 'carrying the can' that's unless you can be very hard. I remember feeling very disappointed, not ashamed it was because I knew her life would be hard and I had hoped that she'd have a better life. Her boyfriend was a complete waster and I knew he would be useless. Obviously at the time she thought he was wonderful. Mostly I remember the shock (sometimes I think we are still reeling from it all these years later) I think you'll just have to hold on tight and hope for the best. I hope you manage to keep up with your studies. If I had my time over again the one thing I'd change is my panic. I wish I'd just gone along with her decisions. At the end of the day you may very well get a grandchild that you'll love and adore. ...I did.

I wasn't overjoyed when my son's girlfriend got pregnant, but I made the best of it and maintained contact with her, even when my son went abroad to work and the relationship broke down. My GD was born when I was 50 and still busy with work and other activities. But she meant and still (at 22) means so much to me. Don't despair, Sapphire. I hope you will have a grandchild who means as much to you as mine does to me.