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Not Much of a Role Model

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Juggernaut Fri 28-Oct-16 17:07:23

On Wednesday we took our nine week old DGS out, and parked in a 'parent and toddler' space outside the supermarket. We were going to do a bit of shopping and have lunch whilst he was asleep.
DH and I were getting the pram out of the tailgate when a woman (early sixties at a guess) drove up, stopped broadside across the back of our car, got out and demanded that we parked in a 'disabled' space so that she could have our 'parent and toddler' space. She lost the plot when I pointed out that neither DH or myself is disabled, and that we had a young baby with us, and were therefore parked perfectly legally. She had a rant about how unfair I was being, that we'd taken the last available 'parent and toddler' space, that we probably didn't have a baby with us at all, and that her grandson would now have to walk across the car park! As she was quite obviously unhinged we chose to ignore her, and eventually she drove away.
We got our DGS into his pram and walked towards the shop to discover she was already walking back out with just a few items of shopping.
She looked at me pushing the pram, and started shouting about how we should have parked in a 'disabled' space. I didn't reply, just pointed to the pram and walked on, at which point she started shouting all over the car park, "Shut up you stupid fat cow"! I admit that at that point I replied "Yes, I'm fat, and you're an ignorant bigot"!
Her GS, the reason that she wanted our parking space, who was walking behind her, being totally ignored by her because she was so busy screaming at me, was at least seven years old, so not really in need of a 'parent and toddler' parking space anyway!
I wonder if the parents of her grandchild have any idea of what a very poor role model she is. I also wonder why she thought we were disabled, although maybe I should chalk that down to her being a 'bit odd'confused

rosesarered Fri 28-Oct-16 17:15:46

I was with young GS parking in one if those spaces, when a big gas guzzler pulled up by the boot of the car and a severe looking young woman started to give me a lecture about using parent and toddler spaces.I gave her short shrift.

Alima Fri 28-Oct-16 17:28:17

There are some strange people about. Hope your DGS managed to sleep through it. Bet she isn't a G'netter!

Juggernaut Fri 28-Oct-16 17:47:55

DGS slept through the whole event, thankfully!
I rather hope she is a Gransnetter, I'd love to 'hear' her explanation for her appalling behaviour!

joannapiano Fri 28-Oct-16 17:48:30

We often park in the parent and toddler spaces in our local Tesco when we have one of our DGC with us. I was talking to the security guard there, this morning, about many large posh cars parking in these spaces, with not a child in sight.
He said that unless he can catch them and photograph them at the time, he can't do much.
He also said that our local celebrity (male, tall, was in a famous pop group)often parks his 4x4 in such a space, but he hasn't caught him in the act, yet.

mumofmadboys Fri 28-Oct-16 18:57:33

Once when our kids were little( we have five) I parked as usual in the parent and children spot and did a quick shop. From the cash- out I saw my car and realised I had no kids with me! I felt very embarrassed indeed!!

vampirequeen Fri 28-Oct-16 19:31:45

Some drivers park their flash cars in those spots because they're wider and therefore the car is further away from other cars around it.

NanSue Fri 28-Oct-16 20:26:36

Good for you juggernaut for keeping your cool. I like to think I would have done too. However I don't think I can say the same for DH.

Ana Fri 28-Oct-16 20:33:54

Some 4x4 (especially) drivers park diagonally so no one can fit in beside them in our Tesco car park - so annoying! thlangry

sweetheartnana Sat 29-Oct-16 20:31:51

Our local Tesco is starting to fine inconsiderately parked cars in the parent and child and disabled spaces

Barmyoldbat Sat 29-Oct-16 20:39:56

Well at our local Asda the parent & baby parking is nearer than the disabled, far nearer. My daughter is very badly disabled and can just about walk it takes her forever and a daydeal to walk from A to B so I make no apologies for parking in the parent/ child bit so she doesnt have to walk so far. After all we are mother and daghrer.

Deedaa Sat 29-Oct-16 21:03:45

I have pointed out to our local supermarkets that the parent and child spaces don't actually need to be right by the shop. What you need is the extra space to get a buggy and small child out easily. With a child in a push chair or a trolley you can easily walk back to the car. It's the disabled spaces that need to be close. Naturally they take no notice because it's all decided by head office.

What a weird woman though Juggernaut

Linsco56 Sat 29-Oct-16 21:04:25

I don't think any reasonable person would challenge you for parking there Barmyoldbat

Anya Sat 29-Oct-16 21:30:32

How does your daughter manage walking around a large superstore like Asda? Do they have disabled trolleys? The kind you can sit and be pushed in.

It is just plain silly that disabled parking spaces are further away than the parent and children ones.

GrandmaKT Sat 29-Oct-16 21:36:07

"I don't think any reasonable person would challenge you for parking there Barmyoldbat" - I wouldn't be so sure. I gave my sister a lift to the local shops once, she had broken her leg and was in a full plaster cast. We were only popping into the chemist and I parked in a disabled space -was just getting her out and helping her with her crutches and someone came up and started ranting and raving because I didn't have a blue badge! Surely a bit of common sense is needed?

Barmyoldbat Sat 29-Oct-16 21:37:35

I do get some l ooks though but lucklyfor them nothing has been said and both myself and Scope have spoken with Asda but nothing has changed despite SCOPE having a number of residents who use ASDA. I reckon there ought to be an age limit on the parent and toddler space so that only those with carriers use them. Prever Waitrose but my daughter likes ASDA!

Barmyoldbat Sat 29-Oct-16 21:45:00

On the plus side for ASDA though is that manager has the safe keeping of my daughters pIN for when she frequently forgets it (she won't use contactless) and he has been known to drop shopping off at her house on his way home.

Ana Sat 29-Oct-16 21:48:57

They certainly have trolleys for disabled people in our local Asda, Anya. Not so at Tesco, although it's a bit smaller.

Anya Sat 29-Oct-16 22:14:17

Just wondered Ana as I've never seen any in trolley parks.

Barmyoldbat Sat 29-Oct-16 22:25:03

Anya, the Dr wants her to walk and not use a chair or mobility scooter as it is helping to keep the little circulation she has in her legs or she could lose them. It also stops muscle wasting in the legs. So she is helped from the car or taxi to a trolley and then shuffles around the store hanging on to the trolley for support, she has tried crutches but finds them quite difficult but I must say the staff are excellent

Ana Sat 29-Oct-16 22:31:17

Anya, no they're kept inside the entrance - not that many of them I admit, but better than none.

I can see what the doctor means though, Barmyoldbat. Better to keep some mobility while she still can.

rubylady Sun 30-Oct-16 03:30:34

At our Tesco they have the disabled mobility scooters to hire for free to do your shopping, which I have done a couple of times. The only problem being, if I were on my own, I wouldn't be able to reach anything higher than shoulder height. But saying that, I could always ask some gorgeous guy to help. wink

Anya Sun 30-Oct-16 07:54:29

Just as well Wobblybits hasn't a sexist bone in his body or he'd be jumping in and asking why it has to be a 'gorgeous guy' Ruby! thlwink

I'm fussy too.....they have to have a pulse at least.

ninathenana Sun 30-Oct-16 08:47:22

rubylady my mum had that problem too but she always found someone willing to help.
My problem is the opposite although I'm perfectly able to walk round the shop if what I want is on the bottom shelf and only a few left at the back I can't get down and reach for them. I will only ask staff not customers to get on the floor for me ! thlwink

meandashy Sun 30-Oct-16 09:20:00

That woman sounds delightful op!! THAT she thinks it's OK to rant in front of her child & yours shows that maybe she needs some help with her anger! No doubt she raged all day & her poor kid had to listen to it!
You'd done nothing wrong. You did well not to react, I'm not sure I'd have been so patient 🤗