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trisher Tue 19-Sep-17 09:11:40

Some of you may know of my long term connection with dyslexia through my son and my teaching. I bothers me that so many people misunderstand and underestimate the abilities of dyslexics. Dyslexics have physical problems with reading and/or writing and/or spelling . They use, appreciate and understand language as well or even better than most of us. They develop strategies to deal with their problems which develop other abilities. My son for example has excellent aural skills and can absorb more information from the spoken word than I can. He is an award winning writer and director
So come on, I know GNers have dyslexic family members, please post about their skills and achievements and let's kill this idea that they are somehow less able than the rest of us, they are different but equal.

Katek Tue 19-Sep-17 09:19:35

My friend's daughter is significantly dyslexic and struggled throughout primary school. She has just gained 7 A's in her Nat 5 exams (Scots O/standard grade) with the help of a scribe, extra time and a lot of hard work. She's now studying for 5 Highers.

Luckygirl Tue 19-Sep-17 09:32:38

My DD has a MA!!

GracesGranMK2 Tue 19-Sep-17 09:37:32

I think you will all know about this but I am very happy to offer the up-side again. My daughter has just completed her Masters (we wait!).

I think the thing that warms me is that she is achieving as well as I believe she could have done without the (severe) dyslexia. Lots of hard work and very, very tiring at times but most of us have limitations which hard work and being tired are worth in order to overcome them and succeed.

Luckygirl Tue 19-Sep-17 10:09:26

Yes, my DD's MA was hard won and in many ways for me that increases its value

Marydoll Tue 19-Sep-17 10:28:14

My daughter dyslexic and dyspraxic has just been given her own team at work. It has been a huge achievement as she has struggled so much over the years. We are so proud of her.
Her dyslexia is what inspired me to enhance my teaching skills by studying for additional qualifications in dyslexia and learning difficulties.
Also my severely dyslexic nephew is a chartered accountant and has just had a huge promotion with a prestigious foreign bank.

morethan2 Tue 19-Sep-17 10:39:28

My son spent all his school life being told and believing he was stupid. Towards the end of his schooling he was diagnosed with a very rare type of dyslexia that would have put him in the special needs category. The specialist was amazed he'd managed so well. He couldn't wait to leave school and would never have gone into further education He has used the skills he learnt trying to cover up his problems with reading to his advantage. His memory is amazing. His ability to stay calm and follow and give clear instructions in a fast moving situation are admired by his colleagues. He has reached the very top of his chosen profession. He lectures diplomats all over the world. On top of that he's just a lovely man who has never forgotten his struggle and so supports younger colleagues to overcome their problems. I'm unashamedly proud of him.

trisher Tue 19-Sep-17 10:39:30

It's wonderful to hear these. Dyslexia is a problem but knowing people can achieve and are not labelled and regarded with pity is something to celebrate. Congratulations to all of them!

Beavermist Tue 19-Sep-17 10:41:44

My daughter manages a multi million pound business with a huge number of staff. She is very successful and highly thought of in her field. She overcomes her dyslexia daily whilst she doesn't hide it she manages it so well most people she works with have no idea.

TriciaF Tue 19-Sep-17 11:04:25

I've written before about my husband, who is dyslexic.
He trained in radio, then TV, then electronics, and built up a successful business - 6+ shops in various parts of Hull where we used to live.
He worked very hard ( 24/7 as they say.)

Grannyknot Tue 19-Sep-17 11:10:09

My nephew is dyslexic and struggled immensely at school and left early at 16. He took a job washing pots at their local pub (they live in the country) and the mums of his former classmates would corner my sister-in-law from time to time with "Is he still washing pots?". Four years later he is a much sought after chef and "doing very nicely, thank you". smile

So it's not always about qualifications either.

tessagee Tue 19-Sep-17 11:13:55

It really is all in the schooling coupled with early diagnosis. My dear niece had all of these and now has a doctrate, having first obtained a double first at university, followed by an MA.

trisher Tue 19-Sep-17 11:20:13

Oh I so agree with that and with building the child's confidence that it is reading that is the problem and he/she is a bright intelligent person with loads of ability.

hildajenniJ Tue 19-Sep-17 11:25:32

I used to work with a lovely care assistant who had dyslexia. She could barely write, and was afraid of the paperwork involved with the job. She went to see an expert in Glasgow who prescribed her coloured spectacles. The lenses were yellow. When wearing them the words stayed still on the page! This girl went on to take her nursing degree, and has never been happier.

TriciaF Tue 19-Sep-17 11:35:03

Trisher - my husband was never diagnosed when he was at school. 60 years ago they weren't interested.
I suppose it was me who diagnosed him (I was an E.P.)

TriciaF Tue 19-Sep-17 11:48:41

ps @Trisher - I'm thinking of asking GN to change my username to PatF, because ours are so alike.

Crafting Tue 19-Sep-17 12:02:05

DGC has coloured lenses too. Makes an incredible difference to reading.

Luckygirl Tue 19-Sep-17 12:06:03

My DD was totally crushed at her primary school as she could not keep up with the written work (or the maths to be fair!) and was slightly written off. It did not help that her older sister was very bright as indeed was/is she. I moved her at age 9 to a Steiner school where the teacher in her class said he was not going to try and teach her anything at all to start with as the priority was to regain her self-confidence. He concentrated on the things that she was really good at - music and art - and the formal learning was channeled via this. I will be forever grateful to that man - he was a bit off-the-wall but was just what my DD needed.

Self-confidence is critical with folk with dyslexia.

vampirequeen Tue 19-Sep-17 12:51:32

DH was written off at school as lazy good for nothing but was, in fact, dyslexic. He developed his own strategies to cope and can read and write although his spelling is sometimes a bit hmm. He started off doing manual work because he thought that's all he was capable of but eventually realised that he could do whatever he wanted. When he had to give up work to care for me he was an Area Manager and dealt with all the paperwork that involved.

goldengirl Tue 19-Sep-17 12:57:09

DH is dyslexic and is a scientist. DS is dyslexic and is a CEO. Both have struggled in their own way but they've done good and I'm proud of their achievements.

trisher Tue 19-Sep-17 13:00:57

That 'lazy" label is so often used, I think it's because dyslexic children are bright and intelligent and some teachers (who should know better) think they are just not working hard enough. Thank goodness for the more enlightened ones.

downtoearth Tue 19-Sep-17 13:13:50

My lovely OH is severely dyslexic and went to school for special needs, not because he was stupid, but they didnt know what else to do with him, in mainstream school they left him to sit and play in the corner.Not only is reading and spelling a problem,memory is also affected,and information cannot be retained.Life with him is unorganised and can be chaotic at times where his coping mechanisms means he leaves things all over ,But he is the kindest most hardworking man who can dismantle an engine and replace parts and he has sucessfully completed an NVQ2
and also his CPC license which for him is a huge acievment,he is perceptive ,intuitive,loyal and I love him dearly as he has supported us financially and kept a roof over our heads and been an amazing step dad to E sunshine

silverlining48 Tue 19-Sep-17 14:23:36

My friend two children both are dyslexic . Her son got a first in his degree and is now earning mega bucks as chief designer in a large company and her daughter who still struggles, through hard work and good personality worked ending ip as manager with a number of staff. When she was young i know my friend despaired, but both have done extrememly well. Nil desperandum. All has worked out well.

silverlining48 Tue 19-Sep-17 14:24:56

Would mention friends daighter also used those coloured lense glasses which really made a diffeence.

Pittcity Tue 19-Sep-17 14:33:47

DH was also branded "stupid" at school. It was only when the school told us that DD2 was having problems when she was about 6 that we got a diagnosis of Dyslexia. She got help at school and out, including the coloured glasses, and passed exams, going on to manage a shop.
DH became a railway apprentice at 16 and has just retired from railway management. He also passed GCSE English a couple of years ago with extra help because of his dyslexia.