Didn’t intend to sound mean, but as in an earlier post, any gifts should be accepted with grace and gratitude, not sneered at or rejected because they are not “on the list”. If you can’t afford an extravagant wedding, don’t expect others to pay for it, just downsize and stay within your means. It’s just plain rude to invite someone then ask for money, it’s like having an expensive entrance fee to an exclusive club
New house and a sloping garden
Lasr two letters continued Jan 24