Sorry in advance, this will be a long thread, but there is a wealth of experience, common sense and support on Grans net. OK deep breath here goes :
I took semi retirement in 2016, happy as Larry with part time hours and at long last the freedom to do things I wasn't able to do working full time. Lots of personal development projects, and latterly taking tentative steps into setting up my own small business (still very embryonic ).
Then due to restructuring, I got moved into another job, with a different line manager. First she seemed nice, jolly, handing out chocolate at meetings but now I think this was just 'grooming'. I started getting heavy 'hints' to go to meetings on my non-working days, and what I took to be humerous (sort-of) remarks that she would give me 'permission ' not to go on my non -working days. Then the pressure got worse, to the point of bullying, with her saying she could expect me to make myself available any day of the week if she thought fit. I said I would look at requests to change my working days now and again but couldn't change every time, as I do have commitments now (set up in 2016) which it isn't always possible to change. Things got so heavy -handed from her I put this formally into writing but then the bullying got even worse. She insists I have to get her permission for my activities outside of work, whether paid, voluntary work, or my own activities. She insists I should provide medical evidence for eg dental appts on my non-working days, and now I feel my life isn't my own.
Things came to a head with a bullying email I came into on a Monday (after a meeting with her the previous week), to the extent I caved in, dissolved into tears, left the office and went to the doctor. I was off sick for 6 weeks, went back in to more of the same pig-headed bullying, and was issued with a warning for my sickness absence. (If I have more than 1 sick day more over the next year, I run the risk of a higher level of warning, eg demotion, dismissal ). I should say I have previously had a very good attendance record but that doesn't count, apparently.
She is now putting me through some sort of disciplinary process for being made so ill by her I had to leave the office - she is calling it 'planning and staging a walk-out', or there's alternative wording about 'Abuse to staff'. I'm at the end of my rope. I know she finds it inconvenient to have a part-time worker in a full-time job, particularly one who is at the end of their working life -she is a 30-something pushy career woman she has said if/when I or her other part timer leaves, she will replace me/my colleague with a full timer.
I feel she's pushing and pushing me to resign, and as that's not happened, she's now trying to get me sacked.
I can't leave just yet, my OH has been out of work for a while and is now trying to build his own business with a partner so that needs time to get up and running properly.
I just dread going into work, and now I can't get this out of my head, even when I'm not working.
Sorry for the long thread, I've just had enough.
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