My MiL is 96, lives in a carehome and has dementia and is almost blind and deaf. Otherwise she has no actual illness. She has always been loved by her family. However my husband and I are over 70 and living on our savings.
I have worked hard all my life and was a single mother for over 20 years (second marriage in my 50s). Now we are paying for MiL's care as she has no money left and I am worried that this is using the savings that had been put aside for our own care in old age.
I woud hate my children to be in the same position but a friend's mother has just had her 103rd birthday and we'd have nothing left by then!
On Gransnet we often talk about when we should stop supporting our children and think about our own future but I don't see any solution to this situation.
I know there is no answer or advice but I wonder if other people are dealing with the same issue.
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