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H1954 Thu 09-May-19 13:33:08

The recent announcement and the comments on GN regarding the new Royal baby's name got me thinking.

I DO NOT like to called or even read anyone else addressed as "Chick" "Hun" or "Babe"!

These are all popular on social media, why can't people use someone's correct name?

H1954 Thu 09-May-19 13:36:40

Oops, should have typed ' like to be called '. Sorry, but thought I should correct myself before anyone else does it for me!

Calendargirl Thu 09-May-19 13:38:27

Agree- they are awful.

Mamissimo Thu 09-May-19 13:40:26

Agree! And I can’t cope with Bubs for a baby.....or Fur Baby for a dog

KatyK Thu 09-May-19 13:44:55

I love being called chick, hun or babe. Why not?? A salesman called me babes recently. I was delighted. I am nearly 70. smile

Bathsheba Thu 09-May-19 13:53:07

I'd rather any of these three than the ageing/patronising "dear" or, worse still, "dearie" hmm

KatyK Thu 09-May-19 14:38:11

Oh yes 'dear' yuk.

EllanVannin Thu 09-May-19 14:49:01

Anything but " dear or dearie " ! They're well played out now. Rather Hinge and Bracket phrases with visions of antimacassars and aspidistras.

Sara65 Thu 09-May-19 15:26:03

At work I get called, love, sweetheart, babe, mate! And everything else you can imagine! Mostly it’s fine, but I have been known to say “and can you please not call me love” sometimes it’s so patronising!

Nonnie Thu 09-May-19 15:48:57

Surely some of these are regional? I remember many years ago being called 'bab' by complete strangers and just thought it was local to where I was living. Don't think I have been called any of those for years, maybe just living somewhere different.

Sara65 Thu 09-May-19 15:54:05

Yes definitely regional, which isn’t offensive at all, but hate being called sweetheart or love, by know all men!

Nonnie Thu 09-May-19 16:46:59

Sara perhaps it is the tone which makes it offensive? Any patronising bloke would get short shrift from me! grin

shysal Thu 09-May-19 17:16:53

My post lady, about half my age, calls me darling, but it sounds natural coming from her and doesn't offend me.

Sara65 Thu 09-May-19 17:35:23

You could well be right nonnie, any sentence that begins “ ok sweetheart, just listen to me.....” sends my blood pressure through the roof! I quite like being called, love, or duck by some people, but absolutely never DEAR!

DoraMarr Thu 09-May-19 19:59:50

The only name I hate is “guys”. A young teacher at my last school used to call her class that, and it always grated!

goldmist Thu 09-May-19 20:16:50

DoraMarr,
I'm with you on that!
I absolutely hate "you guys"
I'm neither yours or a guy.

Don't like "mate" much either, for the same reason, but don't mind the rest, depending on the tone used.

Dontaskme Thu 09-May-19 20:17:23

"Darling" by the girl in our local coffee shop, who says it in the kind of voice normally reserved for a small child. She doesn't say it to ALL customers, just older women. I also hate "bless" when I do something younger people deem as "sweet".

Sara65 Thu 09-May-19 20:42:05

A girl at work calls everyone, darling, sweetie, says bless you my love, about 50 times a day! Actually called me ‘poppet ‘ today!
You’d think it would be irritating in the extreme, but she’s so genuine and kind, it seems alright

BradfordLass72 Fri 10-May-19 07:12:12

there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so Hamlet

It's all in the mind.

I don't give a tinker's cuss what anyone calls me if they mean well.

GinJeannie Fri 10-May-19 09:46:42

‘You guys’ is a real pet hate for me, especially when coming from salesmen or, even worse, SiL and stepGS. So patronising, as if He can’t be bothered to use our names.

inishowen Fri 10-May-19 09:48:23

I was called "hun" on facebook the other days. I think they were patronising me for making a comment they thought stupid. My pet hate is hearing pets referred to as fur babies.

Grandmabeach Fri 10-May-19 09:48:33

My hairdresser calls me dear but as I am old enough to be her grandmother I don't mind.

Floradora9 Fri 10-May-19 09:50:53

Here in Scotland I love to be called " lass " as it is decades since I was one.

grove1234 Fri 10-May-19 09:51:45

love being called affectionate names

Annaram1 Fri 10-May-19 09:57:47

I'm in Devon and previously lived in Dorset. I just loved being called "Me lover" or "love," so nice. Once I was called "Dear" a bit too often by a workman and I finally responded with "Would you like a cup of tea, Sweetheart?" I felt really foolish saying that and have never said anything like it again.
What I hate most is saying something to a younger person, and they respond with "Aw, bless!" They only say this to older people.