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Her birthday. A poem on estrangement.

(38 Posts)
Marelli Tue 14-May-19 11:01:43

''50 years on"

Held in my body for 9 short months
My lovely girl, my joy, my perfect girl.
My loving girl, my funny girl, my child.
She's 50 now, this child of mine
Not lost to me, nor I to her,
But quiet now, she's left my life
For reasons I can only guess.
Time strides along, I'm left apart.
My darling girl.
My heart.

Doodle Tue 14-May-19 11:09:12

flowers lovely poem Marelli

kittylester Tue 14-May-19 11:11:22

(((Hugs))) marelli. Lovely words.

MawBroonsback Tue 14-May-19 11:15:35

((hugs)) Marelli

ninathenana Tue 14-May-19 11:18:24

A touching poem thanks

crazyH Tue 14-May-19 11:20:20

Oh Marelli flowers

crazyH Tue 14-May-19 11:21:53

Time to write her a letter Marelli xx

Marelli Tue 14-May-19 11:28:00

If only that would work, crazyH.
Have tried so many, many times, all sorts of things. Some things, we have to just accept.
Maybe one day. There's always hope. x

showergelfresh Tue 14-May-19 11:32:51

Tears are nudging my eyes after reading that

showergelfresh Tue 14-May-19 11:34:38

Yes - acceptance is the way to go.

DanniRae Tue 14-May-19 11:42:19

Such a touching poem - tears are in my eyes as I write this to you. I really hope that you will be reunited with your daughter some time soon xx

sodapop Tue 14-May-19 14:58:48

Marelli that is so touching, I do hope there will be a reconciliation between you.

Marelli Tue 14-May-19 16:41:20

Oh, if only there could be, sodapop.
Have just seen a gorgeous, whimsical photo on Facebook which my eldest granddaughter (her daughter) has posted. They've all gone away for a couple of days to somewhere beautiful in the countryside for her birthday. DD is walking down towards the riverbank, carrying a basket. Her hair is tied up in a scarf and she's wearing a sarong. Thankfully my granddaughters are not estranged from me.
Marelli.... get a grip, lass!!

kittylester Tue 14-May-19 16:58:17

It's a big day, marelli, you are allowed to let go a bit.

Gonegirl Tue 14-May-19 17:08:15

That is the saddest thing I've read in a long time. Please reach out again. flowers

janeainsworth Tue 14-May-19 17:15:47

Thinking of you Marelli. Our children are always in our hearts, aren’t they, and those milestone birthdays are hard anyway. xx

Ginny42 Tue 14-May-19 17:20:28

(((Marelli))) You clearly love your daughter very much but right now there are differences you alone cannot resolve. Your pain is very real. Be mindful of it, but be compassionate with yourself. Thank goodness you see your granddaughters so focus on loving them. Focus on what you have control of in your life. Acceptance is the way to go and who knows, she may come round sooner rather than later. xx

Marelli Tue 14-May-19 17:29:59

The estrangement has been about 15 years with a break about halfway through when she became a grandma and I became a great-grandma. OK terms for about 3 years then it all kicked in again.
I have to accept the things I cannot change.....and just wait.
Thankyou all for your lovely posts. Xx

BBbevan Tue 14-May-19 17:34:43

Oh, bless you Marelli xxxxx

Anniebach Tue 14-May-19 17:47:10

Marelli you have hope x

Marelli Tue 14-May-19 17:53:08

Anniebach.... 🌷🌷xx

Bathsheba Tue 14-May-19 17:54:24

Marelli sad flowers

annsixty Tue 14-May-19 18:30:51

Such deep sadness comes through.
So sorry the situation has arisen and hasn't been resolved. flowers

Sara65 Tue 14-May-19 18:41:23

Feeling sad for you, isn’t it a good thing that we can’t see what the future has in store for us

bonji Tue 14-May-19 20:28:21

I don’t often post on Gransnet but read some of the posts every day and as mum to two adult daughters your post Marelli, just made me cry. My special thoughts just go out to you. Myself and DH sometimes feel we are ‘treading on eggshells’ with our daughters. We cope with this as so many parents seem to say the same but am so sorry for your situation. Your poem shows so much of how you are feeling that is it worth a try to send it to your daughter so she might appreciate your sadness. Kind thoughts to you.